I have a niece, who I have had a challenged relatonship with for about a decade now.
I am 37 and finally getting married and I didn't want the big show. My fiance who has already been married I might ad wants a big wedding. Big to me at least, 150 people. He wants it at a fancy venue, high end catering blah blah blah. Long story short now I am having the circus I didn't want. Suddenly my uncle and aunt are giving me a hard time about not asking my niece (who I have had to return xmas presents for because she wouldn't return my messages to get together to give them to her) to be in my wedding. 'She is 18 and just quit college and she is "having a hard time growing up", I should be the bigger person and i will regret not asking her'.
My bridal party was set and she didn't even come to mind. Am I jerk or are they wrong for telling me what to do on our day (that we am paying for by ourselves btw).