Wedding on 9/11

lisanowacki

Please help!!! I am trying to decide if it is a good idea to get married on 9/11? Anyone have suggestions? I was offered a great place at my #1 choice...I can tell everything would be picture perfect...excpet for the date itself!

Some people say they would not want to get married on that date. Others I have asked say I should. My mom pointed out that everyday is sad for someone. A friend pointed out that the bombing of Pearl Harbor is a very sad day, but people still marry on it.

I am so torn and confused. Please help!

danieliza1127

Unless you're from NYC and/or have a lot of friends or family that were personally affected by the day, I don't think it should be an issue.  This question gets asked from time to time and that's pretty much the consensus.

danyl87

I was in the same position.  I wanted a place that booked up fast and that was the only day they had available for 2010.  I ended up choosing to go for it because it was where I wanted and for a cheap price, but then had to move my wedding to this march.  The way I figured (with agreeance from a few people) is that day was a LONG time ago.  If you have no significant ties with that day, then it's not going to make one difference to you.  I can see not doing it if you had lost a loved one on that day, but if there are no ties to you (and maybe your special guests that would be to sensitive to the day) then I would go for it.  You can make that day a special day for you and your fiance/husband.  Good luck!

SarahPLiz

I agree with PPs, every day is a sad day for someone.. go for it as long as its not an especially sad day for your family.

Lasairiona

Your mom is absolutely correct that any day has the potential to be sad for someone. But if they choose to dwell on it and can't function on that day (even if that means until they die), then they haven't moved on and whatever the antagonist is has automatically won. Why not turn that negative energy into something positive instead? Using 9/11 as an example, those people who died and their surviving families would want people to be happy and embrace life and everything that goes with it. That's why around that time, countless people decided to not take life for granted because it is/was so precious and actually do what made them happy, and for many that was get married. It is in no way whatsoever being disrespectful to any of the casualities of that day. The reason that people today don't act somber on Dec 7 which at the time was even more drastic than 9/11 according to the folks who lived during that period, is because they have moved on with their lives and chosen to embrace happiness and making each day count. But again, they are in no way denying that Dec 7 ever occurred or that those casualties have little significance, which is exactly the mindset of those who don't want you to marry on 9/11. The same applies to any other day in history when something tragic has occurred.

lisanowacki

Thank you everyone for all your helpful responses...it is so greatly appreciated. I am heading to the venue tomorrow with my mom. I think I am going to go for it! I will let you all know! Again, I'm so appreciative of all of you!

fairy_diva

I feel the same as PP, I wanted to choose 9/11/10 but my SIL and FI both had a stroke over the idea. I even pointed out that everyday is sad for someone, if we tried to miss any sad occasion we would be planning wedding on 50 days a year max! I still lost the battle...

Bucket42

I am actually getting married on 9.11.10.  One suggestion I have is that if you feel strongly about honoring the day incorporate it into your wedding somehow.  For example, if you are having a Catholic ceremony mention it in the prayer of the faithful.  We are making a donation to a 9/11 charity instead of favors.  Just something to think.

sholder1212

I know the feeling, that is the date that we choose for our wedding and some of my friends and family thought it was a little wrong to have it on such a date. My fiance is in the military and since none of the servicemen or women had a problem with the date we are going for it.