kids?!

bexter_fish

I have a few questions re. kids at our reception

1. how old do kids need a highchair until - how do i decide if they need one or not (i cant cantact them all!)

2. what shall i do about food - we are paying half price for everyone aged 4-12, should i provide food for under 4s?

3. should i do different food for kids? (ie fish fingers) or smaller portions of the (quite fancy) adult menu?

4. what should i do about the distant family whos kids i dont know how old there are? guess???

let me know what your doing about kids and how i handle a variety of children aged 3months up to adults!

stardreamer1223

Question to other Knotties:I wonder if there is a way to note this on the RSVP cards? (etiquette wise???) We ask the number of guests, I wonder if we could ask if there will be children under the age of ____.

Any who, If you offer a child's plate, maybe the cost would be different than the 1/2 serving of the adult meal. Besides most children won't eat what's on an adult plate and would prefer Chicken fingers, french fries or pizza.
As for booster seats, I would ask the venue to have them available and have the parents ask a server for a booster seat if they need them.

mb2712

My venue offers kids meals for a LOT less than adults.  I would put it on the rsvp card in a nice way.  Like: _____ children under 4, ______ children 4-12.  They offered me to pick chicken nuggets, hot dog, grilled cheese, burger, or sandwich and french fries, and it's only 6.95 a child, when adults are 50 

nhelene

Most places don't charge for infants or toddlers, because they are either going to be eating off their parents' plates or bottle fed, etc. 

I am curious as to why you can't contact these people.  I don't speak to my extended family regularly but I know the general ages of their children, etc.  I'm sure one of the 'family' grandparents or great aunts/uncles has the scoop.

Perhaps on your response cards you could leave spaces for guests to indicate the number of adults, number of kids 4-12, and kids under 4.  And include a note that guests should contact you if they will need a high-chair or any other special arrangements.

Sue-n-Kevin

Perhaps on your response cards you could leave spaces for guests to indicate the number of adults, number of kids 4-12, and kids under 4.  And include a note that guests should contact you if they will need a high-chair or any other special arrangements.

Above quote from nhelen would be my answer. I have 2 kids, now 15 & 23. When I took them places where adult food was being served, I either brought something with me that they liked, or they ate very small portions of what was served. I know you want to be accomodating, but really: it's a wedding, not a restaurant with a kiddie menu. Based on your question, I'm assuming you are having served food and not a buffet. If you are really worried, ask the venue if they can set up a couple of small stations with pasta and a veggie, enough to serve 10 people, and put a note in the front that says "Kiddie Meals" or something like that.

On your invites you can enclose a paper that asks parents if any children they are RSVP'ing for will need a high chair or have food allergies. Period.

Good luck.

Lasairiona

There is no reason at all that you cannot contact the parents. There is no one-size-fits-all answer.

Everyone needs food. Kids 3 and under will probably eat off of their parents' plates. But most caterers offer kids meals that are incredibly inexpensive wtih food that kids actually like. Most kids do not like the same food as adults and there is no reason to serve them those foods. Alot of adults don't even like the meal choices that are served at weddings.

Ask the parents how old the kids are. If you know the parents well enough to put them on your invite list, then you should know something about their children.