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Escort Cards/Seating

My FH and I are having a disagreement about the escort cards.  I am just curious to see how many people are doing escort cards/seating or just letting people sit where ever they want.  Brianna[url=http://www.theknot.com/?utm_source=ticker&utm_medium=UBB&utm_campaign=tickers][img]http://global.theknot.com/tools/tickers/tt31283.aspx[/img][/url]

Re: Escort Cards/Seating

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    "Trix, it's what they/our parents wanted. Why so judgemental? And why is your wedding date over a year and a half ago? And why do you not have a groom's name? And why have you posted over 12,000 posts? And why do you always say mean things to brides?" palegirl146
  • We are doing assigned tables, but not assigned seats.Ditto.
  • We had open seating.  Assigned tables and/or assigned seats are really popular here on the Knot, but in real life I've only seen it at one wedding.  All of the weddings I've been to in my area have open seating.
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  • We did table assignments. I hate hate hate open seating. It is always miserable  and a gracious host and hostess will assign tables to people with whom they woudl want to be seated with anyway
  • We are assigning tables to ensure everyone has a home-base. It also ensures that people will most likely be sitting with someone their either has a common interest with(if they really don't know anyone else at the wedding) and/or they are not sitting with someone they are feuding with(true story, we have a few of those in the family!).  After dinner, they can sit wherever they want when mingling.
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  • We're assigning tables. That's the norm where I'm from. I've only been to one wedding with open seating, but it was very small and casual and it worked out well.
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  • We are doing open seating, but most of the weddings I've been to have assigned seating.
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    We did assigned seating (with starfish as table cards and votive holders as place cards).  PIB
  • For all the reasons mentioned, I'm going with assigned tables. It's the norm with all the weddings I've been too. The only time I've only seen open seating with cocktail party style receptions (but you still need to have available seating for each guest) or small weddings where it's mostly family/close friends. It's more work for you and doesn't always work out perfectly since you'll probably have a couple of random tables where not everyone knows each other, but I think it's much better than the open seating.
  • We are doing assigned because of the venue/meals.  They want to know how many of each meal at each table.  FI wants to put the cards right on the table with a list at the door of Jane Smith at Table 6, so that is what we are doing. If people want to move around at thier table thats fine, but the venue needs to know what meals are at what table. 
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