Ivory and White

smile6362

Maybe I’m over thinking this but I have no idea! My dress is ivory so all the guys will be wearing ivory shirts but are the other things supposed to be ivory instead of white? Like my isle runner, linens, cake, and pew bows? I am doing pew bows that have pink silver and white in them, should it be ivory instead? Is it ok to mix ivory and white? I was going to have a completely white cake, will this look strange with other things being ivory? Am I thinking too much? Thanks!

fallbride1109

Yes, are thinking too much.  You can use ivory, white, or a mix.  Your cake and linens don't have to match your dress.

I had a diamond white dress, all white flowers, and used ivory for my placecards and table nos.  And I had a white cake with ivory ribbon and used a mixture of ivory and white rose petals.

danieliza1127

This gets asked a lot and I never know the right answer.  For us, my dress was ivory so my H wore an ivory shirt, vest, and tie.  Our table linens were ivory as well.  Other people that wear an ivory dress still have the guys wear white and still use white elsewhere.  I really think you can go either way, whatever works for you.  I'm pretty sure our aisle runner was white, it was the only one they had at Joanns in the wedding section. 

The main thing to remember is that you aren't part of the decor.  It's okay if you don't match the tablecloths or your cake.  No one would expect you to.

mbcdefg

Nobody is going to notice the difference.

I assume that you chose ivory because it looked best against your skintone, right? So your FI should have white or ivory according to what suits HIM best.

As for everything else, just get what looks best. People won't notice or care about the difference in shades. The only people who really seem to notice are recent/future brides, or people with a really good eye for design. Or cranky critical people with too much time on their hands (and in that case, who cares what they think? :P)

trix1223

Well I for one, always take pew bows off the aisle and run up to the bride to see if the bows match the dress.  And then if they don't, I call in the wedding police to have the union nullified.

Really, you're way overthinking this.

Will you be less married if you're in an ivory dress and your cake has white icing?  No one will care.  No one.

Enjoy your planning, and don't get sucked into wedding-itis and making mountains out of grains of salt.  Not your fault though~the huge wedding industry does a great job of making brides think that this stuff matters.

What matters?  A radiant bride and a beaming groom who are gracious hosts and take time to talk to their guests.  Good food, good drinks, good music.  Those are the things your guests will remember.

Not whether the pew bows match the aisle runner.

schwoebr

I had the same concerns when I first decided to wear an ivory dress, but then I decided that at the end of the day NO ONE would even notice! I'm using different shades of "white" between my dress, linens, flowers, cake, etc. No one will know the difference, so don't stress over matching everything exactly!!