Sweetheart table thoughts?

xocourt9xo

My fiance and I are considering having a sweetheart table instead of a head table but I am really undecided. We would have 3 different family tables up front with us not to mention the bridal party (8 total). I just need some advice lol

yoshijo

We are also having a sweetheart table. I love that idea. We are sitting our bridal party with their husbands/wives as well as friends that we know they want to sit near. We are not having them all at the same table. I'm not planning on sitting for very long anyway.

JoanE2012

We're doing a sweetheart table.  It'll give us a moment to catch our breath, eat, and take it all in.  Then we'll be up doing table visits and socializing.  Our bridal party will sit with their significant others at tables where they know others. 

NOLAbridealmost

I like sweetheart tables better than traditional head tables, but I gotta say I do find them perhaps a little bit anti-social?   We did a cocktail style reception so we didn't sit down for a dinner, but if we had it would have been us, our parents, and our honor attendants/SOs. 

HobokensFury

Consider this- if your bridal party is 8 then the head table must hold 16 because it's rude to separate the BP from their dates/SOs.  Most places can not accommodate a table of 16.  This is the main reason sweetheart tables have become so popular.

Avion22

We did a sweetheart table.  Our parents' tables and siblings' tables were really close to us.

Really, we only sat at our table for dinner and toasts. We started eating while everyone else was going through the buffet line, and once we finished we were up and walking around the tables greeting our guests. So we really didn't sit at the table much at all.   I think that's better than having a head table and leaving a gap in it while you're up minging/greeting.  

Kristin4911

Another reason we are doing a sweetheart table is because some of our BP not only have SO's to account for, but also children. It makes more sense for them to sit with their families then up with us, just to have their SO and children sit by their lonesome. And by the time it gets later and all the kids leave, then FI and I will be up mingling anyway.

PJSPJS

We're doing a sweetheart table: we have only 28 guests, so we will definitely be able to "circulate" and interact with everyone during dinner even if we actually eat by ourselves.

MyNameIsNot

We did a sweetheart table and I really liked it.  We only sat for about 10 minutes, so I was glad that we didn't feel like we had to desert anyone when we got up for table visits.  

bridalmarch

We're doing a sweetheart. We both have large parties (7 for me, 8 for him) and while some of them overlap (I have his sister, he has her husband), both parties are stil made up of family and friends who don't necessarily know each other very well. I know my BFF would rather sit with the rest of our friends than at a WP table. 

ksblumb

I love the idea. My FI has been in two weddings in the past year, and I was in one (not either of the two he was in)... all three times we had to sit apart. While it was really just for supper, it still sucked and I found it super rude.

samantha24p

We are doing a sweet heart table. We have 8BMs and 8GMs

Jen4948

Well, if you need to keep divorced parents or other persons who don't get along well apart, I'd go with a sweetheart table.

Beyond that, it's really up to you.  My brother and SIL had a "family table" where they put themselves, parents, siblings, and grandparents in the center of the room; I've also seen sweetheart tables used where parents hosted their family members at tables of their own.