second reception

forthejoy

Hello,I need some advice, My husband adn I got married where I'm from (West coast) and my husband is from the south (GA), his family is planning a reception for us in GA now and I'm trying to figure out what is "normal" custom or whatever for a second wedding reception (casual but his family wants it to look as "wedding-like" that my actual reception was... Basically needing ideas and everything from what is expected from us as the newly wed couple (got married end of Oct, this reception is Saturday!), what to wear, what to do etc... Thanks so much!

alithebride

they're thowign you a congratulations party. since you already got married and had your recception months ago you dont wear your dress.
nothing about this is 'expected of you as newlyweds'. you're not throwing the party-they are. let them figure it out. it's not a wedding reception, it's just a party.

forthejoy

that's what I keep telling my in-laws and family it's not working so far so I keep telling them just do whatever but that my husband and I just want to hang out and enjoy visiting... Thanks! I needed someone else to agree so I can keep on walking. But I think I'm giving up on fighting for simplicity. Husband is wearing jeans and a nice shirt and I'll do a skirt and something... Thank you!!

adktd2boots

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_reception-ideas_second-reception-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:5Discussion:2be3534f-5318-4bcb-ad43-b007d77a2ca5Post:5e91c71a-9359-4600-9969-3b9ed0fa309b">Re: second reception</a>:
[QUOTE]they're thowign you a congratulations party. since you already got married and had your recception months ago <strong>you dont wear your dress</strong>. nothing about this is 'expected of you as newlyweds'. you're not throwing the party-they are. let them figure it out. it's not a wedding reception, it's just a party.
Posted by alithebride[/QUOTE]

I disagree. I think it's up to you.  I had this discussion with friends this weekend, two of whom had a second reception in different places.  One said she regrets not wearing her dress again, and the other (who wasn't going to wear it again) said she was so glad she did.  People wanted to see it.  The one who didn't wear it, she said she felt like there were a lot of people who didn't know who she was- extended family of the groom and people she had never met. If she would have worn her gown, it would have been obvious who she was.

tldh

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_reception-ideas_second-reception-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:5Discussion:2be3534f-5318-4bcb-ad43-b007d77a2ca5Post:5e91c71a-9359-4600-9969-3b9ed0fa309b">Re: second reception</a>:
[QUOTE]they're thowign you a congratulations party. since you already got married and had your recception months ago <strong>you dont wear your dress</strong>. nothing about this is 'expected of you as newlyweds'. you're not throwing the party-they are. let them figure it out. it's not a wedding reception, it's just a party.
Posted by alithebride[/QUOTE]

Not true.  I wore my dress at our second reception and friends and family who had second receptions all wore their dresses.  Some brides don't feel comfortable doing this because the dress doesn't fit the second reception but I can tell you that the guests at all the second receptions I've been to have appreciated it when the bride does.  People want to see the dress.  I would, however, skip wearing a veil and just put a flower in your hair.

OP - let your inlaws plan this and then just go with it.  FIL and SIL planned our second reception and planned a cake cutting and showed a video that they had made of the day.  It was actually nice to just sit back and enjoy everything.

cadamus

My cousin did a destination wedding and had a big party when they got back a few months later. They did the destinantion wedding bc my cousins husband was getting shipped of to boot camp bc he rejoined the army. So they did something fast in Key West and then got to celebrate with their families. But my cousin did wear her wedding dress when she first arrived and then half way through she changed into another dress. It was actually pretty cool!