So I am very newly engaged but even before my Fl proposed, we had disagreements on how long the reception should actually be and in general how long the entire wedding ceremony and reception should be (we are not having a cocktail hr or any alcohol at the wedding). We want to have a live band play after we arrive,before will be ipod music. We also want to release lighted lanterns as our farewell. So I want the timing to be later in the day to go with the colors of our wedding and the vibe of the reception, but I do not want to have to feed everyone a huge meal or spend alot of money on food. I want to have more desserts then actual food. Another issue we are facing is we both do not want to be there super super late because we will be leaving early the next morning to catch a plane. What times does everyone suggest and any ideas on how to solve the food issue? what is the proper way of doing things? Oh and keep in mind budget is a huge issue for us, we don't have the money to go all out on food etc. Also we will not be seeing each other before the walk down the aisle so pictures will take time too.