Groom's Birthday

SG+CD

Hello Gals. 

So my Man's birthday is two days for the wedding. While  there's no way of turning the wedding talk off two ddays before the wedding, I will certainly keep it to a minimum to honor his day. But I want to have everyone sing HBD to him at the reception? I know he does not want to take away fron our celebration but I thoughtit be a nice idea to acknoweldge is birthday . is this a bad idea? 

futuremrsbruno

While some people frown upon it, I think it's no different than doing an anniversary dance or something of that nature. If you know the people at your wedding would find it sweet, I would go ahead and do something for him. However, if you know he doesn't want to be sung to, I would maybe surprise him with a groom's/birthday cake. The dj can announce why you decided to do this.

Also, keep in mind that if there are other birthdays close to his, and you only sing to him, others may feel like you didn't care it was their birthday. I have 2 birthdays the day of my wedding, and I want to take a minute to give them a little birthday love during the reception.

Simply Fated

It's not really his birthday anymore, so you could be unnecessarily opening up a can of worms if anyone else there has a birthday close by.

Summer2011Bride

Ditto Simply Fated. Why don't you just celebrate his bday on his actual bday? I mean, would you normally sing HBD to him two days after the fact? I just think there isn't a point to it. Celebrate his birthday on his actual birthday then celebrate your marriage on your wedding day.

DramaGeek

If your wedding and his birthday were the same day, I'd say go for it, but it seems weird to do two days later.

futuremrsbruno

I get what you are trying to say, though, OP. You think that your FI's birthday will sort of get lost in all of the excitement and last minute wedding things. I'm guessing that is where you are coming from?

I feel you. My parents 30th anniversary is June 26, and we get married July 21st. They were able to squeeze in a Sunday for themselves to celebrate in between all of the things we have to do for the wedding. My parents are hosting the reception, and have supported us in other ways for the wedding, so even though it will have already passed, I plan on having the dj play their wedding song and dedicating a dance to them. I feel like it's only fitting since they have given up and sacrificed for us in this planning. Our families and friends will find it sweet, so I'm not worried about that.

I get where PP's are coming from, but I would probably want to do something too. I have 2 bridesmaids whose birthdays flank the wedding. We are getting married the weekend we would celebrate the birthdays and they don't want to do it the weekend after because we will be on our honeymoon. We are planning on including them in the birthday shout outs and I think I'm going to do something else, but not sure what. I want them to know I didn't forget and I appreciate that they are willing to help and be part of the wedding even when they have their own celebrations to have.

AdeleDazeem

Why, exactly, can't you "turn off the wedding chatter" two days before the wedding?  It's actually quite easy (and healthy) to go out to dinner and discuss anything else.  Really!

At our reception, we honored birthdays, anniversaries, engagements, and babies.  We celebrated everyone.  We were inclusive like that.

Avion22

One of the best things we did was have a date-night two days before our wedding.  It was the night before everyone arrived from out of town, so it was a good opportunity to spend some alone time as a couple without all of the family members and craziness.

My advice would be to have a date-night and celebrate his birthday together, just the two of you.  Go out to dinner, movie, bowling, or whatever you like to do together.  Maybe celebrate with family for the first part of the evening, then make it couple-time:-)

thale0924

I'm in a similar situation!  My FI's bday is Oct. 12th and we're getting married the 13th.  On the 12th I'm planning on getting some of bridesmaids together and putting together all of the flowers/centerpieces.  I also am planning on staying in a hotel near our venue while he stays in our apartment.  

I really want to do something special for him, but being the day before I have no idea time wise what is realistic! 

Any ideas? I was thinking instead of a rehearsal dinner just having a bday dinner?  My venue doesn't do rehearsals any way, so we wouldn't have a rehearsal dinner if not for his bday!

HobokensFury

Since it's not his actually birthday I would think it was odd.

mbuckley85

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[QUOTE]One of the best things we did was have a date-night two days before our wedding.  It was the night before everyone arrived from out of town, so it was a good opportunity to spend some alone time as a couple without all of the family members and craziness. My advice would be to have a date-night and celebrate his birthday together, just the two of you.  Go out to dinner, movie, bowling, or whatever you like to do together.  Maybe celebrate with family for the first part of the evening, then make it couple-time:-)
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</div><div>I agree with this.  Go out to a nice restaurant or maybe his favorite place.  Get whatever you want, hang out afterwards doing something he loves doing.  And make a point NOT to talk about the wedding :-)</div><div>
</div><div>I know if it was my birthday, I totally wouldn't care about talking about the wedding stuff, but it gets to be too much for FI after a while.  He can only take small doses of it (Probably because most of our combined wedding stress stems from his family).

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