FI and I are having a 1:30-2 pm ceremony and then heavy hors d' ouevres and cocktails from 2pm - 4pm for our July 23, 2010 wedding taking place on a rooftop overlookng the lake and the city. Tres chic!
We don't want a long, full, traditional reception and we really just want to get married and be done with the day. FI's parents HATE our idea. They don't like that it's not formal, they don't like that it's short, they don't like that we don't want to sit down and have a traditional meal with everyone (we have 200 invited guests), they don't like that we dont want to have a 6 hour reception with dancing, they dont like that we're hving cupcakes instead of a cake and they don't like that we aren't having it at a more traditional location. To go even further, they don't like that we aren't having a registry, and they don't like that FI and I aren't super excited about wedding planning. We told them our plans 2 nights ago and they said they'd rather us not invite any of FI's family members to the wedding bc they'd be embarassed to have thier family members come to something "like that" or that we should elope rather than "having a wedding that no one will want to come to because it isn't traditional enough." FI and I wanted a small, intimate wedding from the beginning and no reception at all but made concessions for FI's parents bc we wanted to be considerate of them and their expectations. Did I mention that these people aren't paying for anything?!?!?!?!?!?!?!
I feel like FI's parents are not only being rude but that they've really crossed the line. Is there any ladylike way to say tough s*!*t we're doing things our way? Should I never have conceded to their demands in the first place? Help me, knotties!