No cake cutting - how do guests know to help themselves?

katelin318

We aren't having a traditional wedding cake, but rather a tiered dessert stand filled with mini whoopie pies for our guests.  My fiance doesn't like dessert, so we don't want to do a cake cutting.  My only concern is that guests will be waiting for a cake cutting and won't know that they can go ahead and help themselves whenever they want.  I've been to weddings before where the cake cutting happened kind of late in the evening, so I'm worried guests will spend all evening waiting for it and not get their dessert.  I'd prefer not to do a dessert "announcement."  Any ideas?

AdeleDazeem

Since you don't want an announcement, I suggest word of mouth.

Are you having a sit down dinner?  Waiters will have to come by and pick up plates and maybe take some coffee orders.  They can mentioned to guests that dessert is laid out and ready.  Once a few people grab dessert, the rest will follow.

aragx6

I'd likely just have the DJ make an announcement; it's really the easiest way.

fallbride1109

Are you doing menus?  If so, you could list it on there.  You could also do a simple tent card on each table that says "In lieu of cake cutting, please help yourself to the dessert bar after dinner." or something like that.

But once you start putting out dessert, people will naturally help themselves.

Avion22

We didn't have a cake -- did a dessert tray like you are describing.  I'm pretty sure our DJ announced that "dessert was served, pleae help yourselves."  Honestly, I don't really remember -- if he made an announcement, then it was unobtrusive.  If he didn't, then everyone figured it out and got themselves dessert on their own.

If you are really against having an announcement, then have your families and bridal party help themselves to dessert. Once everyone else sees them, they'll help themselves too.

karulyne

maybe you can have someone bring out the whoopie pies after dinner? that would be clear enough to me that they were open for business. that or you can have the wedding party set the example and go up and get some!

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Guest need to be told "what to do", we don't feel comfortable winging it.  Make an announcement or have them served to your guests.  Or even post a sign on the dessert table

eureka30030

You could alway forgo the "dessert table" and instead incorporate the pies as a part of your centerpieces at the tables themselves... 

cbendito

Agree with most of the above: have your DJ make an announcement. Can be as simple as "Hey folks, dessert is served, help yourselves". Not everyone will pay attention,but some will and others will follow.

Or, you can tell a few key people, maybe wedding party, or a few guests, beforehand. That way, word will spread that dessert is self serve after dinner.

TaraKeeley

<strong>[QUOTE]Are you doing menus?  If so, you could list it on there.  You could also do a simple tent card on each table that says "In lieu of cake cutting, please help yourself to the dessert bar after dinner." or something like that. But once you start putting out dessert, people will naturally help themselves.
Posted by stephiehall[/QUOTE]</strong>

I agree. I think this is the best way to advertise the information.