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bridal party

How many is too many?  My FI has a list of 8 and I have a list of 6.  I have another friend I can ask but that still would only be 7 on my side.  Do you think it matters if it's uneven?  How do you work that when one side has more?  I don't want to ask just anyone.  Plus, I don't want the party too big.  I also have 3 Jr. bridesmaids.  Ugg!  I originally didn't want to have any kids but it just got too complicated not having my neices in it.
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  • edited December 2011
    You don't have to have even sides. I think you should stick with the party you already have.
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  • edited December 2011
    I think you will be fine-- 6 BM and the 3JBM will be 9 attendants on your side.To help keep the processional "even", maybe you can have the eldest JBM be escorted alone by groomsmen #7, and the other two JBM can be escorted by #8.just an idea...
  • edited December 2011
    Don't add more just to keep things even.. We did that and ended up with someone who we arent totally glad we asked to be in it - not worth it.
  • edited December 2011
    We started out with 8 GMs and & 7 BMs but one BM had to drop out. Our bridal party was always uneven. Symmetry is not necessary in a bridal party so don't worry about that. IMO, the smaller your wedding, the smaller your BP should be. It would look ridiculous to have 20 people up there for a wedding of only 100 people.
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  • Stacylynn702Stacylynn702 member
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    edited December 2011
    We're inviting about 220 people. Do you think that 17 people in the BP is too much?  8 GM, 6BM and 3 JrBM? 
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    edited December 2011
    also, it's a catholic wedding so during the ceremony, they would sit in the first pew.  Also, we're planning on a Sweetheart Table so that they can all sit w/their significant other.
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  • edited December 2011
    The biggest piece of advice I can give you is DO NOT PUT THEM IN BECAUSE YOU NEED NUMBERS.  Make sure you have a good, strong relationship with the people who are going to be in your bridal party.  If that means it is uneven, or that girls are on the guys side or vice versa, then so be it.  This is about having the people who are important in your life standing up there with you, supporting you in one of the biggest steps you will take in life.Also, regarding your nieces.  I have 4 nieces, and 1 nephew.  I am only putting the youngest in as the FG.  The nephew will be the escort for mothers and grandmothers, as he is my closest male relative.  For the other girls, we are getting them small corsages, and are making sure they are specially seated, so that they feel important too.  My advice: don't put them in just to please them or others.  There are other ways to make them feel important and valued without adding every child to the BP.  Readers, handing out programs, being in pictures... if they are in the junior bridesmaid age group (9-12/13), then they won't care how, as long as they are recognized.Also remember- the larger your BP, the more money it means, for gifts, hair, makeup, etc.  Also, if they are your nieces, and all from the same sister/brother or in law, that's a crapload of money requirements to be placing on one person.
  • edited December 2011
    I think your BP seems like a good fit for 220 people.  We have 14 for about 200 guests (no flower girls, ring bearers or jr BMs).Like we've all said - don't throw people in there just to keep it even.  It's a lot to ask of your friends and even MORE to ask of people you aren't super tight with.
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