To dance or not to dance....

laurasr1984

I am having a really hard time deciding on if we should dance...or not...

We are getting married at a large church locally...and i am thinking if we have dancing I want the reception elsewhere...if not we can do the reception in the church dining hall...it is really nice.

I have been to some weddings where there is dancing and some where there hasn't been any.

I just really cannot decide. I want to dance...but it would not break my heart if we didn't.

I know we are going to do an evening wedding with dinner/appetizers and all that good stuff. I am wanting to do of course the cake cutting, bouquet toss, etc..also a photo booth. Would not dancing be odd?

What does everyone think?

aerinpegadrak

We're not doing dancing, there simply isn't room for it.  But because of that, we've only got the reception scheduled for two hours.  I don't think people will stay very long without dancing.

If you don't really care either way, I would start looking at venues where you could have dancing and price them out.  I'd imagine you'd probably save quite a bit of money doing the reception at the church hall.

oceansrosey

We arn't having dancing either. Instead we are just hooking up an ipod to a small sound system and letting simple (but not too loud or interfering music) play in the background. If you don't care as much for the dancing like aerinpegadrak said, then you would do great to hold it at the Church dining hall. Plus you wouldn't have to worry about the transportation of your wedding guests and party to a different venue to make sure you had dancing.

AmoroAgain

We didn't have any dancing either, and just provided an excellent dinner for everyone.  Our friends arranged for an after party at a local lounge and anyone who wanted to go, could, and that was a good way to get people who would dance and actually enjoy it.

I also had a playlist set up and the sound was piped into the room.  It was full of currents and classics that were fun and some that were about love and stuff.  It was about moderately upbeat and mixed with some slower music.  It was pretty simple, really.

duckie1905

No dancing is fine.  The only thing that pisses me off is when all the traditional dances are done (first dance, father-daughter, mother-son etc) and then there is no dancing for the guests.  If you are going to do something offer your guests the courtesy of participating as well.

Pearls03

I think it depends on if you, your fiance, and your guests are really dancing types.  Will they be really be disappointed if there is not dancing, can they take it or leave it, or will it be like pulling teeth to get people to dance? Also, will it cost more money for a location where you can dance and can you really afford it/would you rather spend the money on something else? 

Lasairiona

Skipping the dancing is not strange, despite what some people may tell you. Tons of people get married everyday and skip it for one reason or another and their guests are not offended. Anyone who does have a problem with it as a guest is there for the wrong reasons.

Also, many people believe that dancing has no place at a Christian wedding, even if the reception is held elsewhere since dancing is sinful. No it is not. The Bible mentions several places that God likes dancing, therefore it can't be a sin. In the end, it's a personal decision that only you can make. Your guests will enjoy themselves no matter what you decide, and as long as the wedding is legal (the ceremony portion), it's still a proper/valid wedding even without dancing.

Think about your guest list though. Are a number of them the dancing type or would they prefer to mingle?