How to deal with an annoying family

amanda1611t

I honestly don't know how to deal with my family. When I first got engaged my one family member texted me of how much of an outrage it is that i am getting married and that it will only be a green card marriage and end in two years. completely wrong but i took it. then the family member apologized but continued to tell the rest of my family that it is an outrage. My aunt called me a few weeks ago to complain about my wedding venue. she said its outrageous the money im going to spend there. wrong again because I am having a brunch and got $20 of the price pp. my mom is super annoying with everything because she wants it all her way. Now i am thinking of adding some mickey mouse heads to my wedding like hidden mickeys because we got engaged there. I am also have cake toppers of us with mickey ears on that were custom sculpted. i amsure they will say something about that too

how do i deal with all of them?! i know at the wedding my family will be ok but i cant help but to think the whole time im gonna have to listen to my aunt telling people off or complaning about the food or my mom nagging me about the guest list.

its gonna be about 15 people from my family and 2 people from my dads family which my family doesnt like. and then our friends and just the grooms mom who doesnt know any of my family. not only will i have seating problems but i have to deal withmy loud obnoxious italian family being rude to my guests.

help!

Pburke2010

I feel you on the annoying family.  It doesn't feel like "our wedding" it's starting to feel like "their" wedding.  like my aunt is looking for dresses in thrift shops (we don't even have a date and location yet). 

I would tell everyone that at the end of the day, it is you marrying your fiance.  It is not their wedding.  Put up boundaries.  If they are really that outraged, then don't come to the wedding.  I would say "i'm sorry that you feel that way about my fiance, but we love each other and are making a commitment for the rest of our lives.  I really hope you can stop this and just enjoy this with me."

I would also not tell them about wedding stuff (such as the cake topper and stuff) if you think it would cause problems. 

amanda1611t

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_reception-ideas_deal-annoying-family?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:5Discussion:68c1af00-401c-4fb7-9532-b188c2eab13aPost:312452be-c139-440e-9e85-eef848806b44">Re: How to deal with an annoying family</a>:
[QUOTE]I feel you on the annoying family.  It doesn't feel like "our wedding" it's starting to feel like "their" wedding.  like my aunt is looking for dresses in thrift shops (we don't even have a date and location yet).  I would tell everyone that at the end of the day, it is you marrying your fiance.  It is not their wedding.  Put up boundaries.  If they are really that outraged, then don't come to the wedding.  I would say "i'm sorry that you feel that way about my fiance, but we love each other and are making a commitment for the rest of our lives.  I really hope you can stop this and just enjoy this with me." I would also not tell them about wedding stuff (such as the cake topper and stuff) if you think it would cause problems. 
Posted by Pburke2010[/QUOTE]

<div>thanks, i really should talk with them.my mother keeps telling everything; not me.</div>

MyNameIsNot

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_reception-ideas_deal-annoying-family?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:5Discussion:68c1af00-401c-4fb7-9532-b188c2eab13aPost:3ea086fa-eebe-4094-8402-1e1ed864a237">Re: How to deal with an annoying family</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: How to deal with an annoying family : thanks, i really should talk with them.my mother keeps telling everything; not me.
Posted by amanda1611t[/QUOTE]

<div>Stop telling your mother.</div>

dustinandtricia

One of my siblings started questioning me on the phone one day regarding some of my wedding decisions. I finally handed the phone to a good friend (she's a real bulldog - especially when she's fighting for things she knows I want). That has solved my issues with my family, for now.  

amanda1611t

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_reception-ideas_deal-annoying-family?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:5Discussion:68c1af00-401c-4fb7-9532-b188c2eab13aPost:ca191191-9afc-4f76-928e-d0fb180957e9">Re: How to deal with an annoying family</a>:
[QUOTE]One of my siblings started questioning me on the phone one day regarding some of my wedding decisions. I finally handed the phone to a good friend (she's a real bulldog - especially when she's fighting for things she knows I want). That has solved my issues with my family, for now.  
Posted by dustinandtricia[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>that sounds like a plan...thanks!

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AurorasEnvy

I agree, don't tell them any more wedding plans, and if it comes up again, put them in their place & stand up for yourself.  If my family ever said stuff like this, I'd tell them it was none of their god#amn business and that they aren't obligated to attend our wedding if they cannot support our marriage.