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FI at your bridal shower?

What are your opinions on having your FI at your Bridal Shower? My sister's is next week and my mother is insistent on her FI being there. I'm totally against men at the shower. What do you guys think? Honestly, for some reason men at showers just bothers me. I think they are for women and men should KEEP OUT!

Re: FI at your bridal shower?

  • edited December 2011
    Is your mother thinking to show up in the beginning to bring your sister, leave and then come back later to chat with some people or is she saying for him to be there the whole time?
  • edited December 2011
    I think she is thinking the whole time.
  • edited December 2011
    I'd have to say no to that. You don't want him to see some sexy things you may get for your honeymoon! :) And showers for the most part, bore boys and they don't want to be there. Is your FBIL telling your mom that he isn't staying? Does your sister want him there or is this all just your mom?
  • edited December 2011
    I agree that showers are geared towards women & should remain that way, however I do think it is becoming more common to have a "couples shower" - my former co-worker just had a shower for her upcoming wedding this month the invite stated "couples shower", so her FI and other male SO's were invited.It just depends on the couple's preference.
  • edited December 2011
    I think it is really weird...it is a BRIDAL shower, ya know, for the bride.  Honestly though, I don't think I could convince FI to come to the shower anyway - what guy wants to come to a party with 20+ women and opening presents filled with housewares and lingerie?  I think that would be FI's worst nightmare (unless all of the women were got and wearing lingerie that is)
  • edited December 2011
    Ooops, that should say "hot" not "got"
  • edited December 2011
    FI wants to be nowhere near my shower.  He dislikes shopping, oohing and ahhing women, and anything relating to household items.I think couples showers are more popular now, but aren't men invited to them as guests as well?  It would be weird if the FI was the only man there.
  • edited December 2011
    I told my FI to not ever try coming to mine. My sister probably wants him there just because they have a weird (in my opinion) relationship. They have NEVER been apart one day ~ and I'm serious ~ since they met. They live, work and do everything together. I'm trying to come up with an excuse to get her there solo. I told her that it is a meeting for the Bachelorette Party.
  • edited December 2011
    ***even***
  • dnldjttdnldjtt member
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    edited December 2011
    my FI showed up after it was over b/c we needed 2 cars to get everything home. LOL.
  • edited December 2011
    I told my FI that he should only be there at the beginning and end.  Unless it's a couples shower the FI should not be there the entire time.
  • edited December 2011
    I had two, one for my family locally one for his in MI - for mine locally he came to say hi, left and came back at the end to help us pack up after everyone left. for the one in MI, his mom made him stay - but that was mainly cause it was all family who he hadnt seen in a while and they wanted him there.. it was small, and went by pretty quick, so no big deal. Also, no lingerie or anything of that sort, just some kitchen stuff so it wasnt awkward.
  • jessica0602jessica0602 member
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    edited December 2011
    my FI was there at the beginning to drop me off and greet our guests and pick me up to get the loot!  although i've been at showers where the fella stayed the entire time.  i don't think it really matters either way.
  • edited December 2011
    Hubby will probably be there in our case because most of my friends are male anyway...like it's been for any baby shower thrown for the few females in my circle of friends. An odd assortment of gay, straight, and otherwise shower guests always makes the cute old ladies at the shower a little confused, and makes for a more tolerable time for yours truly.
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