Bridal Party Table

Corybabe01

I'm not sure if there's been any other posts' along the lines of mine or not..

At my reception I was planning on just having a head table, with myself, my fiance and the bridal party.
However, I was thinking about the bridal parties boyfriends/husbands/girlsfriends etc. If my fiance was in a wedding party I wouldn't be happy about not being able to sit with him.

Should they just suck it up? It's just for the dinner course really...
I could just have a table with the bridal parties "others" sitting together.

I dont know, Please give me input on your thoughts!
I'm thinking I sound looney haha

Thank You!

JaxInBlue

If you wouldn't want to sit apart from your FI, don't do the same to your wedding party.  Either have a big enough head table to accommodate SOs of your party (a king's table format might work) or consider doing a sweetheart table for you and FI.  Other alternatives are a smaller table where you and FI sit with either your MOH, Best Man and their SOs or you sit with the parents. 

We had a sweetheart table.  Our bridal party was seated as other guests were - at tables with people who they knew or whose company they'd enjoy.  We thought the sweetheart table was great - we got to eat and spend a few minutes talking just us before we did our table visits.

aragx6

We're having a sweetheart table for this exact wedding. Splitting up couples on a day that about celebrating commitment and love is not only rude but really just makes no sense and is ungracious to your closest friends.

Thankfully head tables appear to be going out of style.

Other options include a King's table or a head table with you, H, his best man and SO and your MOH and SO.

Corybabe01

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[QUOTE]We're having a sweetheart table for this exact wedding. Splitting up couples on a day that about celebrating commitment and love is not only rude but really just makes no sense and is ungracious to your closest friends. Thankfully head tables appear to be going out of style. <strong>Other options include a King's table or a head table with you, H, his best man and SO and your MOH and SO</strong>.
Posted by aragx6[/QUOTE]

I really love that option. However, I have 4 BM and 4 GM (including matron and best man). Will that be too big of a table?

joe&cassie

We are having two honor attendents each because we both have 1 sister and best friends.  So my sis is the maid of honor my best friend is matron of honor FI's sister will be best sister and then his best friend would be the best man.  I think a sweet heart table is what we are going to do because all 4 have SO and two of them have children so if we were to have a king's table or head table it would be incredibly large.

bratto06

Yes they should just suck it up...i think it is fine and looks alot better to just have the wedding party..My FH was just the best man and we have 2 kids I didnt want himt to have to worry about the kids so I am glad we sat seperatly I mean we danced and hung out all night its not like we didnt see eachother at all

[Deleted User]

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Bridal Party Table : I really love that option. However, I have 4 BM and 4 GM (including matron and best man). Will that be too big of a table?
Posted by Corybabe01[/QUOTE]

So long as the dimensions of the area where you are setting up the King's Table allows for it there should be no problem. My FI and I are planning on having 4 attendents each. My FI actually said he wanted to do a Head Table because "they looked nice." I explained the problems with it and why it was rude. He didn't truly get it until we were both in my best friend's wedding. Since we were both in the wedding party we got to sit together but we watched the bride's cousin scowl throughout dinner because she couldn't sit with her husband. After my FI saw this, he agreed to a compromise of a King's Table. He gets all his friends at the table and everyone has their plus ones with them.

Summer2011Bride

I think you answered your own question. You said you'd hate to sit apart from SO at a wedding, so why would you want to do that to others? Suggestions include: a REAALLY big head table with everyone including SOs (not my favorite option), a sweetheart table for just you two and then sit the WP and SOs amongst the guests, a King's Table, or you could still have some "head tables" but make them regular banquet tables. You and H can sit at them with the WP and their SOs. If not everyone fits at one table, have more than one. Or you could sit the WP and SOs amongst the guests and you and H can have a "head table" with your parents/families. There are so many other options.

MyNameIsNot

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[QUOTE]<strong>Yes they should just suck it up..</strong>.i think it is fine and looks alot better to just have the wedding party..My FH was just the best man and we have 2 kids I didnt want himt to have to worry about the kids so I am glad we sat seperatly I mean we danced and hung out all night its not like we didnt see eachother at all
Posted by bratto06[/QUOTE]

<div>Right, because who cares if they are comfortable or not?  I mean, it's not like you care about these people or anything.  And everyone knows that how a table looks is much more important than how your friends feel...  /sarcasm</div><div>
</div><div>My god people kill me.  Are you honestly trying to use your wedding as a weapon to hurt your friends?  </div>

SB1512

Don't split up the bridal party from their SO's.  FI and I are not doing a head table, or a sweetheart table (hate the idea of all eyes on us in blatant way) so we will just be sitting at a regular table amongst the rest of our guests.  Haven't thought about who else will be at that table with us probably MOH and her date, my sister and her BF and one of FI's BM and his date.  Maybe 1 more couple if we are doing tables of 10 people.

QueerFemme

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[QUOTE]<strong>Yes they should just suck it up</strong>...i think it is fine <strong>and looks alot better</strong> to just have the wedding party..My FH was just the best man and we have 2 kids I didnt want himt to have to worry about the kids so I am glad we sat seperatly I mean we danced and hung out all night its not like we didnt see eachother at all
Posted by bratto06[/QUOTE]

seriously??    People aren't props.  It doesn't matter what it looks like while people are eating at the reception.  Seat your BP with their SOs and family, if applicable.  A sweetheart table is a great idea.

banana468

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[QUOTE]Yes they should just suck it up...i think it is fine and looks alot better to just have the wedding party..My FH was just the best man and we have 2 kids I didnt want himt to have to worry about the kids so I am glad we sat seperatly I mean we danced and hung out all night its not like we didnt see eachother at all
Posted by bratto06[/QUOTE]

You're right.  When you're not near your kids you totally stop worrying about them...

And this was a solution that worked for you.  I don't take my child with me to weddings so please explain why you'd separate couples then.

Helsy85

The first time i realised having the WP and SO seperated was considered rude was when i came to these boards. All the weddings i have attended have only ever had a head table with the WP and the SO have been seated either together at a close table or on tables with other people they know. But i am from Australia.. so i dont know..

Im sure it is better etiquette to keep WP and SO together.  I dont think i would be fussed if i was the SO of a WP member, but im pretty easy going. Im sure some people would not like it. But, like you said if you wouldnt like it.. dont do it. Keep them all together, you might just have to have 2 tables with the WP and SO and a sweetheart table for you and your Husband.

jessicabessica

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[QUOTE]Yes they should just suck it up...i think it is fine and looks <strong>alot</strong> better to just have the wedding party..My FH was just the best man and we have 2 kids I didnt want himt to have to worry about the kids so I am glad we sat seperatly I mean we danced and hung out all night its not like we didnt see eachother at all
Posted by bratto06[/QUOTE]

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</div><div>Back on topic, I agree with the posters that suggested ways of keeping your WP with their dates.  These are your closest friends, why would you want to do anything that would diminish their comfort or enjoyment of your wedding?  </div>

ECOlson

If there's enough room in your venue and the floor plan allows it, I'd suggest doing a "harvest style" or "T-shaped" head table.  We're placing two banquet tables together (harvest style) and another at the top so from above it looks like a T.  We can fit 16 people at it if necessary, but we'll only have 14 (us, 4 BMs, 4 GMs and their dates - not all are bringing dates, though).

Maybone

I can't remember a wedding I've been to where SO sat at the head table. I've inly seen the wedding party up there.  I guess it depends on the people, traditions, and locations. I don't think I would care if I was seperated from my FI for an hour while dinner was served if he was in a wedding party.  I also never realized it was rude until reading these blogs.  Why not just ask the WP if they care? If so, then you have to figure out what to do from there.

AurorasEnvy

I had a King's Table to accommodate all the dates of the bridal party, and they were all very appreciative of it.  Everyone thought it was such a cool idea.  And it felt really awesome to sit at the head of table with 20 other people seated at it!

I've been the date of a GM before where I knew no one else at the wedding, and they didn't have assigned seating.  Twice.  And it SUCKED.

I wouldn't ask your closest friends & family members (the wedding party) to do anything you wouldn't want to do.

Our king's table - I'd highly recommend it!:

wels8301

I was in a wedding last summer where the WP sat at a head table and all SO's sat within the rest of the crowd. It was a little uncomfortable because my SO didn't really know any of the other guests, but another BM and I introduced our SO's and they sat together.  It really wasn't a very big deal because it was only for the actual supper.  If most of your WP's SO's know other guests then it isn't a big deal.  If they don't know anyone else, it might be uncomfortable for them. I don't think there is really a true right or wrong answer to this question because it depends on if your guests know each other or not.  I agree that you should ask how the WP feels about the situation!