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Future In Law Guest List

Please help! Right after our Save the Dates went out (last week) my in-laws were shown the final guest list for a THIRD time. They are asking to add 6 more people to the guest list. The wedding is being held where my fiance's from (since I've lived here for 6 years now) and 16 hours from my home in Michigan.  My guest list total will be about 75 and their guest list total will be about 135. Am I being a bridezilla telling them NO? They're almost doubling my number! All I picture doing on my wedding day is being introduced to people I don't know. Augh! Additionally, we're paying for 1/2 the wedding with our parents each pitching in for a 1/4 of the costs. Adding 6 guests to the list is going to add $750-$1,000 to the cost. I need some advice...

Re: Future In Law Guest List

  • Figure out how many people that 25% financing can cover, and then tell the in-laws that that's their cutoff. And if they want to pay for more people then they are welcome to do so (of course, make sure that your hall can fit those people).

    I'm 2 months out and we're struggling with the guest list now. Trust me, get this stuff hammered out ASAP. Also, remember that anyone who receives a Save The Date must also be invited to the wedding, so don't go nuts sending out the STDs.
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  • No, you don't have to allow them an open ended guest list  just because they are giving you 25%, say no, you're sorry but you can't accomodate any extra guests, your budget doesn't allow it.

    Stand firm, especially if these guests are strangers or your FILs will be wanting to invite extra people for every declined invite you get.
  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_reception-ideas_future-law-guest-list?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:5Discussion:b778f94e-3823-4c68-bc32-e5b6d289771aPost:307b0c34-2830-41c0-9818-256a3a9b1aae">Re: Future In Law Guest List</a>:
    [QUOTE]First off, I can tell you from experience that meeting people for the first time at your wedding, while a scary horrible thought beforehand, is not so bad on the big day itself.  [/QUOTE]

    Agreed! There were tons of my inlaws friends at our wedding that I had never met - They are juts happy to be there celebrating with you and it's really nice to meet them.

    I think if your in laws want to pay for the extra plates, no big deal - Just let them know that your current budget is based on your current numbers. If they want to pay extra then let them have their additions.
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