How to politely for money instead of gifts?

ProudIrishGirl88

My mother and mother in law to be bought us a honey moon but told us it was up to us to come up with spending money. We are paying for our wedding by ourselves and its going to be really hard to come up with enough money to really have a good time in Vegas. We made a honeymoon registry online but how do we kind of hint we would rather them go to that than get us stuff?
Are there like little money making games that can be played at the reception?

unchatenfrance

You can have your family spread word through word of mouth that you would prefer money. IMO, money-making games at the wedding reception are tacky. If you're that strapped for cash, you don't have to do on your honeymoon right after the wedding. Take some time to save up money instead.

lyndausvi

I would be pissed if there was a money making game at a wedding. No, just no.

Have your moms or your social group's biggest mouth just spread the word.

I gave to a HM registry once.  Yeah the couple forgot that I bought them a helicopter trip on the registry and bragged how they had no intentions of using any of those 'gifts' and just wanted the cash.

Nope, never again.  I truly thought I was giving a nice thoughtful gift and felt duped afterwards.

DramaGeek

Hell no.

Get rid of the honeyfund - do you know how those things work?  The website takes a percentage of the money your guest gives you and then cuts you a check, so your guest thinks they're gifting you with a $100 couples massage and instead you get an $85 check.  Not ok.

Instead, have a very small gift registery or no registery at all and then when people ask where you're registered you can say "actually, we're saving up forXYZ right now."  They'll get the hint.

As for money making games at the wedding - you can't be serious.

ceh789

Money making games at the reception?  You cannot be serious.

NOLAbridealmost

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_reception-ideas_how-to-politely-for-money-instead-of-gifts?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:5Discussion:d0fe7428-89ef-4143-af40-a35788c6f341Post:4e8c2197-a4cf-4233-9693-8d15bc4c1055">How to politely for money instead of gifts?</a>:
[QUOTE]My mother and mother in law to be bought us a honey moon but told us it was up to us to come up with spending money. We are paying for our wedding by ourselves and its going to be really hard to come up with enough money to really have a good time in Vegas. We made a honeymoon registry online but how do we kind of hint we would rather them go to that than get us stuff?<strong> Are there like little money making games that can be played at the reception?</strong>
Posted by ProudIrishGirl88[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>No, to the bolded part. </div><div>
</div><div>The polite way to "ask" for money is to not ask at all, but instead either don't register or have a small registry and let close relatives like MOB and FMIL know that if people ask they can say you're saving up for a honeymoon. 

</div><div>Ditch the honeymoon registry. They're a scam. Seriously, the real losers with those websites are the bride and groom.  If you get, say, 1000 in gifts you'll only end up getting like 850.  That's a huge chunk of your guests' change that would have been in your pocket but you sacrifice it for the gimmicky nature of the honeymoon website.</div>

GoodLuckBear14

<em>In</em> Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_reception-ideas_how-to-politely-for-money-instead-of-gifts?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:5Discussion:d0fe7428-89ef-4143-af40-a35788c6f341Post:4e8c2197-a4cf-4233-9693-8d15bc4c1055">How to politely for money instead of gifts?</a>:
[QUOTE]My mother and mother in law to be bought us a honey moon but told us it was up to us to come up with spending money. We are paying for our wedding by ourselves and its going to be really hard to come up with enough money to really have a good time in Vegas. We made a honeymoon registry online but how do we kind of hint we would rather them go to that than get us stuff? Are there like little money making games that can be played at the reception?
Posted by ProudIrishGirl88[/QUOTE]

Why have games?  Why not just have a big bouncer at the reception doors demanding a $50 cover charge per person.  Or is that too rude of a shakedown for your tastes?

dokchampa

It's never okay to ask for money, or any kind of gift. If you can't afford a honeymoon, postpone it for a few months.

heylady87

I've never been to a wedding reception that DIDN'T have a dollar dance.  But otherwise, no, there's no good way of asking for money. You'll honestly be surprised at how much money you do get instead of items. You can definitely do Vegas on a budget.