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What Val failed to mention is the fact that not only did she defend the Philadelphia Board, but she also DRAGGED IT ON. She did not need to continue posting on the DW Board. The DW Bride that posted the request for people to go in with her on a B Pic Session apologized for making the statements that she did and asked that the matter be dropped SEVERAL times. Val unfortunately decided to continue pushing the issue. It was at that point the other DW Brides defended THEIR board and Val continued to be snarky in her posts. This went on for two days. Come on now! Two days. There was no need whatsoever to track her down on another board just to add fuel to the fire. Both of the Moderators from the DW board had asked for the matter to be dropped on several occasions but Val continued to post comments not just to the original DW Bride who had already apologized but to others who were posting on totally different subjects. Val provoked everything that happened after the DW Bride apologized. It is obvious that Val and a couple of other Philly Brides weren't going to let the issue drop and continued to be snarky in various other posts. Belittling the DW Brides on their own board was very childish. You didn't see one DW Bride run over to this board to cause more drama or get snarky with any of the brides here. I wouldn't think they would either because for the three weeks or so that I've been on the knot nobody on that board seems to be rude or assinine at all. I am fairly new to the boards period and from an outsider looking in, it was in very bad taste for Val and the other Philly Brides to act and make inapproporate comments as they did AFTER it was asked to drop the matter. It is evident that even Knot Annie considered Val's actions to be childish, hence the banning and pulling her duties as a moderator. Who can blame Annie for that? As a moderator, you should be preventing drama instead of promoting it. Yes, Val was an outstanding moderator on this board by the way everyone has rallied around her but unless you read the thread from the other day you can't judge her or the DW Brides.

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  • TryingItAgainTryingItAgain member
    First Comment
    edited December 2011
    Who is dragging it out now?  Pathetic.
  • angel33284angel33284 member
    100 Comments
    edited December 2011
    Thanks for clearing that up. I don't have anything against Val, but I figured there had to be more to the story than what she was telling us. The Knot has to stand behind the mod's decisions or the whole process will not work. But when a mod takes it upon themselves to abuse the guidelines of the forums then something must be done. I guess Val had a reason for wanting to defend the Philly boards, but in the grand scheme of things who really cares what anybody thinks about anything. I don;t like some of the people on here and they don't care, just like some don't like me and I don't care. It's just a silly message board. Why does everyone get their panties all up in a bunch? I'll never know.
  • edited December 2011
    I don;t like some of the people on here and they don't care, just like some don't like me and I don't care. It's just a silly message board. Why does everyone get their panties all up in a bunch? I'll never know.Bingo.  That's exactly what I am thinking as well, Angel.
  • edited December 2011
    Ditto Previous Post.I read the threads. All of them. And Val was not snarky at all, IMO. If you think that was bad, I highly suggest you not step foot on the P&E board- you wouldn't survive (neither would I for that matter!). I personally thought her responses were very nice- she agreed to disagree, was polite about it, and even joked around with some of the other posters. Just because she doesn't agree with every little thing that every single Knottie will do does not make her snarky, nor rude.Your bride didn't only post on the Philly board, but also on the Delaware board and on the SNJ board. I read her original post on the DE board, and it was vendorish, not only to me, but to other brides as well. If she had DD'ed and left it at that, we would have been fine with it all- but things were stirred up, which has led to all of this.  What Val did was defend not only her board, but herself as well. What if I went around calling the entire DW board RUDE and other not-so-nice names (I obviously wouldn't do that- I am sure there are some lovely ladies over there)? You sure as heck wouldn't like it anymore than Val or I like being lumped into the Biitch Category. I don't appreciate being called things I am not. There may be people on here that are not so nice, people who you won't like, and people who won't like you- I know it's that way with me. But guess what, it's an internet board. You will never meet any of these girls, so what does it matter if you don't like the way they spoke or didn't speak to you? Whether or not Val continued it, your DW bride started it all by creating that "rude" post. LET IT GO. As one of the DE brides would say, put on your big girl panties and move on.The fact that it has gone this far, and that you are still defending your board and your DW bride, puts you and your board in the same supposed boat as the Philly board. Val was a RESPECTED mod- do you know how hard those are to come by? She was respected by everyone (whether snarky, nice, lurker, or whatever category they fit into), and because someone continued the drama, now the Philly board is without it's very-worthy-of-being-called-fantastic mod.So please, like you told Val on the DW board, don't cause drama. Move it on- what's done is done. We all have our opinions on how it went down, and apparently they will all differ. It doesn't matter anymore- we all have weddings to plan, or help plan. Girls like me, who are more worried about how to pay for my DJ in this economy or what to do for table numbers, or most important what candy to have in my candy buffet, do not need drama like this.  And I am sure even DW brides don't want it either.If you are going to post something constructive (like what kind of candy you would want in a candy buffet), we would love to hear your ideas- I am sure you have some of your own that others would love to hear, including myself.   ANd I am sure that you would much rather be doing PIP of your gorgeous wedding dress (which I would love to see as well!)  Otherwise, please, move on.PS- I have just under a year left, and I really am starting to wish I had done a DW- it would be so much easier, and more relaxing!
  • edited December 2011
    Well said Briar Rose. 
  • edited December 2011
    For clarification purposes please do not refer the DW Board as my board. I frequent several different boards and have posted questions on that one on a couple of instances just to ask about having a destination wedding. I was merely stating some facts that I know to be ture which Val had left out. Not trying to inflate the situation by any means. I agree with the majority that the original post did come off quite vendorish but I don't think she meant it to sound the way it did. It's agreed that it should have been re-worded - And by saying that the brides on this board were rude was only her opinion. As someone stated here, we need to take opinions for what they're worth - however in her defense (keeping in mind I don't know these brides) she did apologize. These are just my personal opinions and clarifications. I also agree that the P&E brides are very hard pressed and I don't think many people are meant to last at all there. Which again in my opinion is too bad considering most brides go there for genuine answers. With that being said I'm 15 months away from my wedding and I'm still debating a destination wedding or a traditional wedding. So undecided at the present time.
  • superbefsuperbef member
    First Comment
    edited December 2011
    sofa king wee todd did.
  • matthew24matthew24 member
    Fifth Anniversary 100 Comments
    edited December 2011
    You guys are idiots, you know? I was also involved in this freakin ridiculousness and WTF are you talking about that you attempted to drop it. After the original post, which was deleted of guys, titled "Philly Girls are so RUDE" there was some mere conversation going back and forth in which I added my part, twice. Val, was on there like 3 times. Then after all of that, it was said and done, your little friend Simply Mistaken (which I find the screen name ironic for an incident like this) was continuously added posts about ME, I believe 3 additionally in all. One was title with NWR- I don't know what to do. She stated that I was freakin stalking her and harassing her because apparently I was able to reply back to that post, which I did twice. Everyone jumped on ship saying how I was harassing her, and I believe it was thrown in there that some how I magically found her email and emailed her which is a crock mind you. Anyways, in that lovely stupid convo you princesses were having, Val was mentioned saying she was involved. She just merely addressed the issue. You girls are bogus and ridiculous and what don't you get the freakin facts right before you started posting blasphemy!!!!PS: STOP DELETING THE POSTS AND THEN ATTEMPTING TO USE THEM AGAINST US, THINK YOU WOULD HAVE A STRONGER ARGUMENT IF THEY WERE HERE; BUT THEN, YOU WOULDN'T HAVE AN ARGUMENT NOW WOULD YOU.
  • edited December 2011
    Honestly, your post is not at all helpful.  Sure, we would love to read the posts and judge for ourselves except they were all DD's by the DW crowd.  If the DW board was just an innocent victim of Val's harrassment then why did they rush to delete anything that made them look bad?There is a lot of inappropriate and rude crap that goes on with TN and people say mean and hurtful things in posts constantly.  Even if Val did refuse to drop an issue, which there is no longer proof of thanks to the DW board, I don't see why that would be such a horrible offense that had an entire board so upset.
  • edited December 2011
    Oh FFS, YOU are dragging on this on.
  • larrysdarlinglarrysdarling member
    10 Comments
    edited December 2011
    Are you for realz? Please come back when you have more then 21 posts to your name. What's that, like 1 post a day in the whole 3 weeks you've been here?
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  • edited December 2011
    Princess Bride - Since you are "new" let me explain something to you.  Things like this happen all.the.time.  It's an internet message board, FFS.  If you hung around TK for a while like MOST of the girls on this board, you would stop with the posting and go back to your regular board.  Your posting is ridiculous drama and I've actually never seen such a thing in my 2 years here.  People don't get banned for stupid sh!t like this, Mod or not.  
  • edited December 2011
    This whole debacle is proving my theory that for some, a DW is a great wed to hide the fact they are social inept morons with no friends.I mean Jesus H.  Get the hell over yourselves.
    Baby Numbers 11.8.10 The Sequel on or around 10.13.12
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