2 Receptions. Offended vs Understanding ? HELP

stephaniecmt

Thanks everyone! (:

Avion22

As long as everyone is invited to everything, then it's fine.

It becomes rude when certain people are invited to certain things, and others are invited to other things (or MORE things).    I understand that some family and church friends are unlikely to want to attend the second reception because of the alcohol and dancing, but you should let THEM decide which parts they will attend or not attend.  It's rude to invite 500 people to the ceremony and gym reception, but only 100 of those for dinner/drinks/dancing.

The only exeption to the "all or nothing" rule is having people attend the ceremony only at your church.  As churches are public places, anyone can attend your ceremony.  Some people put ceremony notices in the church bulletin the week before, and it is understood that the ceremony is open to anyone.  This is different from "inviting" everyone (via an invitation sent to their home).    

Maggie0829

I really think that you and your FI need to learn how to compromise better.  Having two receptions, where one reception meets the requirements for each of your "dream" receptions is not compromising.

I personally would take Stage's advice and skip the first reception.  Have one reception at the hotel.  Invite whomever you like because IMO a 100 people does not equal an intimate reception.  If people are uncomfortable with the dancing portion of the evening then they will politely exit early.  The one's who want to stay will stay and party.

If you do decide to continue on the path that you are going you will need to invite everyone to everything.