What should I do?

shadakiss

 I believe the dance order should be first dance goes before the father daughter dance... Correct?

If so I have an issue... My FH and I are rehearsing our first dance now and there are a bunch of turns and dips and what not... things that I can't not do in a mermaid style wedding dress with a big, huge, bustle in the back... I was wondering if it would be just toooo wierd and out of order to have the father/daughter dance first (because I want pictures of me in my wedding dress dancing with him) the son/mother dance and then have our first dance...? That way while the son/mother dance is taking place I can change into another dress...

How does that sound? 

I was thinking about cutting the cake, changing while everyone ate cake and coming back to do the dance... have the mother/son dance changing to do the father/daughter dance... and then i thought... That is just tooo much!

trix1223

I agree with MOB that it would be very disrespectful to your FMIL to walk out of the room while she's dancing with your new DH.

Honestly, unless you and your FI are terrific, experiences ballroom dances, the "choreographed" first dances are often terribly uncomfortable to watch~regardless of the bride's dress.  I'd worry less about fancy moves, and more about having a lovely, personal, romantic dance with your new DH.

It's probably my prejudice against 2 dress brides coming through, but I just don't get the need to change into a second dress for a 2 minute dance.  Seems like overkill or trying way too hard for my taste.

banana468

I think it sends a weird message.  If you can't do those dance moves in your dress, I think you need to either change out of your wedding gown prior to your entrance at the reception or change your dance.

As a guest, I'd wonder why the bride "put her father first" by not dancing with her husband right away.  And if it was to change into a dress, unless a reception dress was the norm, it could be rather AWish as if you needed to make an entrance without him - when the point is that you're part of a legal social unit.

Instead, either change before or change the dance.

shadakiss

Wow... ok... A bunch of these opinions I never thought about... I'm happy I did post this... I don't want to upset my FMIL or be disrespectful to her... she's already upset my fiancee is wearing a white tux! lol... And that would be too much work and what not anyway...

@ MOBinFLA, I don't plan on doing the dancing at the end but I don't want people to dance while my father and I are dancing or during the mother/son dance either... We were planning on cutting the cake right after the meal... I don't want to keep interupting the dancing with announcments and cake cutting and whatnots... if that makes sense...