Planning, insanity

LFenlason

So I'm driving myself insane. My wedding is set for August 10, 2013. People ask me all the time if I've got things planned etc...I have the church and venue booked. Thats all. I think I know what color theme I'm going to go with but I think its too early to make any definite decisions. Maybe I'm wrong and I'm just procrastinating? I'm worried that if I pick out something I think I like now, make the decision and book it I may find something I like better down the line. Any advice? Is it too early to plan these things??

Peavy

You are right, they are not.  Your wedding is over a year away, and most brides change their minds a million times.  You've got the venue and the church, that's all you need for the moment.  Next book your important vendors - photographer, DJ, etc.  You don't need to worry about colors and style for another six months or so.

cwill6212

People are crazy when it comes to weddings. Once they get word that you are getting married, they will NOT STOP ASKING about it. Even if you're a year out, "how's the wedding coming along" will be the first words out of their mouths from now on. Just shrug it off, keep your answers short and sweet and don't let them stress you out.

karulyne

the benefit to waiting is you get a chance to really consider the big picture before you tie yourself down to anything. The problem is that if you wait too long other people may book the vendors you eventually decide you like and want to use. My advice would be to set a game plan for when you want to have certain elements of the wedding decided by. For example, if music is really important to you, you may want to prioritize finding a dj first, or if you think pictures is going to be the biggest thing to you, try and find a photographer first...however you do things, however you eventually decide things the end result is you will be married, which is the whole point, so don't stress too much! it can be really overwhelming, but things will fall into place. People are not asking because they want to put any pressure on you, they're just making conversation and curious I'm sure. We booked our major vendors (venue & caterer, dj, photographer, and officiant) about a year ahead, and we're currently figuring out flowers and decoration, and still need to figure out our clothes and the cake, the menu, the timeline, several other little details....one thing I have noticed is as we check each thing off the list it feels a lot less overwhelming and a lot more fun!

sarahbeth96

Has anyone heard of FleurDeLis Bridal Productions? I was thinking about attending their bridal show on June 24th. Any suggestions? Their website is www.fdlbridal.com, it seems legit. 

aragx6

I would start looking at photographers, transportation, and DJs soon-ish, but you're doing just fine still.

Sue-n-Kevin

I agree with the prior posters, book the vendors like DJ, photographer, officiant now. Those are the things that book up quite early.

Your local board will be a GODSEND. If you haven't been there, go and introduce yourself. They will have great recommendations on the vendors.

My color scheme was set before I even booked anything, because I found great black & white toile invitations on the sale table at Michael's before we even set a date ($5 per box of 50). Our venue ended up being an old vintage village, and it all came together. My favorite color is aqua, but it wasn't in our wedding, and I didn't care. It wasn't that important to me. I had all white flowers, again, because it wasn't important to me and went with the colors dictated by our invitations.

Look at pictures on the Knot and get an account in Pinterest if you don't have one. The feel of your wedding will find you and you can plan colors based on your likes, dislikes, style, etc.

Good luck. Don't worry. If you want to do a bunch of DIY however, depending on what it is, some of it does take time so don't wait too long, LOL.

vbandell

haha your not wrong to wait a bit. I know my wedding is over two years away and I thought I had my colors all picked out, and for a long time I was set on the colors of baby blue with a mild chocolate brown. Then we set our date (july 4th) and the colors changed to red, white, and blue. We went to look at bridesmaids dresses to get an idea at some cost for budgets for others and for ourselves. And the colors of the dresses i planned to have navy blue, then we get there and i fall in love with this beautiful red, so now the dress colors are red :P I have been engaged 2 weeks and already made a lot of changes so it is okay to wait, means less stressing.

bratto06

Mine is Nov 2013 I have everything planned out already and in my binder..ALL my DIY projects are planned and we will be starting those soon...I have my top 10 dresses we will be trying them on in Jan and top 5 bridesmaids dresses..flowers are already picked out colors and table centerpeices are already picked out...venue we will have picked out by next  month...I want all my DIY projects done soon so I dont have to worry about the time limits

kelleywill

I'm in the same boat our date is oct 2013 and my first thing is place everything else will just fall into place later. Once i find a place and book it then i will worry about then next thing. We specificly had our wedding planned over a year from now so that i could not stress out. No forking out alot of money very quickly and plently of time to do everything. I say get your big things done your venue and a few others. Everything else can wait and you can pull it together later. 

The only thing i'm worried about is picking out something and when i go to order it months later it not be there since companys cycle things out. Hopeing this wont come up. I wish you luck with everything.

Eyejewel

COngrats on the date. Im getting married AUgust 10th this year. You still have a while but start looking at DJ, photographer, videographer (if you want). Its no fun when the vendor you want is booked. I booked some big vendors well over a year out and i was inquiring with makeup artist- i think i had 6 or 8 months at the time and she was starting to get calls for my date so i booked deposit.

inkstainedpages

My wedding is next April, and we've been engaged since October, so I had some of the same issues. I like to be organized and have a plan, so what I've been doing is gathering ideas for everything but not finalizing until we're sure that's what we want. We have changed our minds a million times about centerpieces, food, style, etc. We booked photog, videog, and venue early, and besides that just started booking things a couple of months ago. You'd be fine to wait until a year out to start booking most of the stuff. If there's something you already have decided and have your heart set on, book now.