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So sick of politics...

So my dad has been hassling me for months now about getting a date set for our wedding. We originally wanted it to be in July, but due to finances we're having to push it back to either October or January - but because of FI's daughter (she's 5, and her mom is very difficult to deal with sometimes), it's extremely difficult to get a date set without her confirming that we'll be able to have her during that time.

I've explained this to my dad COUNTLESS times, and all he keeps saying is that "a lot of things are happening around that time of year, we need to know your date because our plans will stall until you have a date". 

I really appreciate him putting things off, but the other things that are happening really don't seem like something worthy of all this pressure. I'm frustrated enough about not having a date set, and it really doesn't help to have my family pressuring me when it's not really in my hands. Any advice for getting him to back off? I really don't want to be rude or snap at him, but I'm kinda losing it with all the stress.

CN: Dad is pressuring me to set a date, but I can't just yet. How to get him to (nicely) back off?

Thank you!
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Re: So sick of politics...

  • Maybe just politely tell him your unsure do to things that are out of your hands right now. And tell him that you'd love to have a specific date at this point and your sorry it's interfering with his plans and as soon as you have an answer he's the first to know. What more can he possibly say after that? Good luck, I hope things go easily for you!
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  • I agree with Jenn.  Tell him you're trying your hardest to get a date because your stressed out too.  And maybe say that he's not really helping the process.  Also, as soon as you know, you'll tell him.  Good luck!

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  • I would let him know exactly what you let us know in the nicest way possible. Let him know you would like to set a date, too, but can't because of your fiance's daughter.  Let him know all of it is stressing you out and the additional pressure you are feeling from others is also stressing you out.  Good luck!
  • Thanks ladies - I'm going to try and tough this one out, it's just very difficult to keep being polite, when he keeps saying the same things over and over again, no matter what I say. Right, broken record mode ... engage!

    Thanks everyone :)
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