Hey Ladies,So i am not sure if you remember but i had drama with the FMIL about our wedding. She wanted to invite all her friends, but of course not all of them can come because its a DW. She kept convincing us to do it here (no way!), so as a compromise i said we'll think about a AHR (which we'll also have to pay for ourselves).Well, i've been looking at venues, and anything decent is equivalent of an actual wedding here. My FI is not questoning the whole thing because he says we can't afford to do "two weddings". Anyway, the dilemma comes from his BM. FI told him about the venue search and he comes back with "Well, if you're doing it here, then im ot coming to your DW".I am not sure if he was joking, but i got kind of offended. We never made anyone come, and asked him to be FI's BM after they said they will be coming... Now i feel like he's doing us a favour by coming. Should I ask him and his gf (who is my BM) if they were serious?As background, they are also planning a wedding, and said they might come for 5 days instead of 7 (which is totally fine by me).... but now i feel like they dont want to go at all.So should we even consider the AHR? Everything is pointing against it, it seems.