So we want to have a party here for those who can't make the wedding to still celebrate with us, but we were thinking of having it right before our wedding. I'm not completely opposed to having it after, but I guess I feel like more of the excitement will be there if we do it before? Plus, I figure the guests we invite to the wedding will then get an invite for at home party soon after and not feel as pressured to go to Puerto Rico (if they were on the fence).Anyways, so my question is...if we keep going with the plans to have this party before the wedding, is it still called an AHR or is it like a couple's shower? FI and I are paying for this, so I hesitate to call it a shower and have people to feel like we are inviting them to this just so we can get gifts. Or do I just call it a shower and have my mom handle the invites as if she's throwing it even though FI and I are handling it all? Is there even a rule that it is only called an AHR if it takes place after the wedding?
Gina