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The Ugly

Yes, there were uglies…   This one is mostly my fault.  My BM, Stef, is divorced from Bri’s friend Mario.  I grew up with her; he grew up with him.  Mario was getting sick of being left out of events since we’re all in the same circle of friends and told us that whether or not we invite him, he’s coming because it’s just not fair.  We sort of thought that he would tell her at some point, especially since they had so much interaction in selling a house together.  (Mind you they are going on 4 years of being separated and were only married for 2.)  Well Mario never told her and I realized at the bachelorette party she still didn’t know.  Everything was already paid for and I didn’t want her to miss out on everything because of him.  Bottom line: I should have told her last year and didn’t.  She somehow never found out until she got to the airport.  She flipped out, but had to get on the plane because the bags were already checked.  I don’t find out until she gets down there.  Meanwhile, Mario left Stef for another girl (Tracy) but they broke up in the beginning of this year.  My crazy MIL decides to rub salt in the wounds and on the plane says, “oh, Mario, I was so sad to hear about you and Tracy breaking up.  What happened?”  This was in front of Stef.  (She always seems to do these things and yet “doesn’t do it intentionally.”)  So my mom finds out and flips out and wants to tell off MIL.  So I’m at the salon getting my nails done and my aunt and MOH show up and tell me I have to smooth things over with Stef and then talk to my mom to make sure that a fight doesn’t break out between her and MIL.  Luckily, my aunt and MOH calm my mom down and talk her out of fighting with MIL and I talked to Stef and everything was fine.  And then that night Stef started her island romance with Wayne, so all was good!   The REALLY Ugly:   Every Sandals we’ve stayed at had private beach, however, it is not that way in Antigua; all beaches are public.  Some of the beach vendors are drug dealers.  On the last night for all of our guests (Saturday,) one of them was talking over the railing to my brother.  My brother made the mistake of stepping down onto the beach to talk to him.  I suppose since he did this, the guy thought he was interested and had money on him.  When my brother said “no thanks,” the guy pulled a gun on him.  My brother tells me, we go to the manager, the manager calls the police, but of course we never saw the police, and the guy took off.  Mind you, there was a Sandals security guard right there who did nothing.  I’m sure the policy is that they can’t because once you step onto the beach, you’re off property.  Either way, this was a VERY disturbing situation.  I don’t want this to reflect poorly on Sandals because I really don’t think there was anything more they can do.  I also don’t want this to reflect poorly on the island because everything else was perfection!  It did seem that everyone was aware of this individual because when I told the WCs and our butlers about it, they described him right away.  Me and my brother then had “security detail” with us for the rest of the night.  I went to the bathroom and 1 minute later, a security guard popped in and asked if I was ok.  As I mentioned, my guests partied at their pool until 5:30 AM.  They had 3 guards posted around their pool until dawn.    We tried to just put this incident behind us because all the guests were leaving the next morning and me and Bri really had nothing to do with it.  Or so we thought…we were on the beach the next day walking down to the water sports center and we hear “hey blonde American girl in the yellow dress.”  Bri turns and it’s him.  We continued walking towards water sports, took out an aqua bike and thought that was the end of it.  We walked back, stopped at our room (which was right on the beach, but much further down from where the original “incident” occurred so we were never worried) and headed over to the photoshop to view our wedding video at 4.  On our way back I noticed that the guard posted at our beach gate was the same one from the night before.  We took naps, showers and started getting ready for dinner.  I went out on the patio and I saw the guy sitting out on the beach, but I was hiding behind a tree so he didn’t see me.  Bri went out and he started yelling “hey american boy” to him.  (The resort offered to move us on Saturday to a nicer room but we didn’t feel like moving.)  I called the butler told them to send a security guard immediately and come get our bags because we’re moving.  I packed in 15 minutes, we went to dinner and they moved our stuff to the Med Village while we eat.  We were fine for the rest of our stay.  Never saw the guy again and we made several trips to the beach.   Again, I want to emphasize that this was an isolated incident and they took care of us in the best possible way as quickly as possible.  There is nothing that the resort can do about people on the public beach.  Will I stay at a resort with a public beach again?  No.  Do I work in Philly and much worse things can happen to me here?  Yes.  Did I expect anything like this to happen on vacation?  No. 

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