On Saturday we went to dinner for FFIL's birthday, and part way through dinner the wedding comes up, and FFIL blurts out "Well your mom (FMIL) isn't really happy about the wedding." *stunned silence* Then he says "Well, she's not happy about not being invited to the "real wedding" here."Now what he is talking about it the fact the FI and I are not getting legally married in Cancun, we are just signing the papers here so we can be legally married this year (as some of you know - for the tax break this year, we need it). We have gone over this with them multiple times. I'm starting to get really offended that they keep referring to our wedding in Cancun as not a real wedding. IL's are convinced that we are having some sort of mini wedding here that we just aren't inviting them to. We have continually told them that we consider our "real wedding" to be in Cancun, when we say our vows in front of our families & friends. We are only signing legal documents here, we are not saying any vows here. We only want to say our vows once, for real, in front of the people we love.They just don't get it. They think we have to say vows here, which we don't. FI's aunt is ordained and is just going to complete the documents with us and send them in. I got really pissed and just snapped at them "Look it, we can have a dinner where you can sit and watch us sign the papers, but we ARE NOT saying vows in California." I think FIL's were a little taken back by that, because I never snap at anyone really, but enough is enough! This is our darn wedding, and I swear if they say one more time that the wedding in Cancun isn't a "real wedding" I'm going to tell them they don't need to go if that's how they feel about it. Why would they want to attend a "fake wedding" anyway? They've made it abundantly clear that we are stupid for having a DW.I am so right at that point where I just hate weddings. Between IL's, bridal shower drama, and my mom deciding she hates my MOH now, I just want to tell everyone to *bleep* off. Weddings bring out the wrost in everyone, it's terrible.*vent over* I also have to apologize, I feel like I only complain on here anymore. It makes me quite sad because I love Knotting and so many of you ladies on here, I hate to be Negative Nancy.TIA to anyone who reads this