I've been planning my wedding for the last 2 months now and was beginning to become too stressed out. FI made a comment "jokingly"about eloping and getting married somewhere tropical. That really got my gears turning, and I decided to do some research. I found that we could have a very luxurious "Weddingmoon" for a little less than we planned on spending on the wedding. I decided it was the way to go, and spoke to FI about it, who is delighted to not have to see me turn into BRIDEZILLA. So, now we've told just about everyone who matters about the elopement and their all very happy for us. We planned on going by ourselves and had not even considered asking anyone to go with us, because we cannot afford to pay for anyone else. But, now we have a few people offering to go for a long weekend to witness the ceremony. I would love for some of my friends and family to be there, but feel weird about asking more people to go. My MOH, her BF, My Dad, and his wife, have alll showed interest in going. But if their going then I feel I should extend an invite to my mother, sister, brothers, and MOH 2, FI's mother, father, brother, and friends. But how do I invite them. I would love for anyone who can afford it to come see us get married.I don't want to commit an etiquette faux pas, but asking people to come, and them feeling like they have to take on the expense just because they were invited.Also, my MOH still wants to throw a bridal shower, Bachelor/bachelorette party (Is this acceptable?). And we plan to have a casual reception type party 2 weeks after the wedding, and invite everyone who was on the guest list for our wedding.What is and is not acceptable for my situation?TIA!!!