FI and I both have divorced parents, and that is part of the reason we are doing a planned "elopement." Since I don't have a bridal party, my cousin (on my moms side) has been saying since I got engaged that she is throwing me a bridal shower. We're getting married in January, so she sent me an email asking what would be a good day in early December and who would I like her to invite. FI's mom also asked if anyone was throwing me a bridal shower, and offered to have one in her hometown but said it would be pretty small, so I told her she and FI's sister were welcome to come to my cousin's. No biggie. I also plan to invite FI's step mom and step sister to my cousin's as well because both sides of his family are cordial. Well, my dad just got remarried like last month and my mom has not made it to the point where she would be happy about spending the afternoon together. My mom wouldn't tell me no, but it would ruin her day and since it is her side of the family throwing the shower, I want her to enjoy herself as well. So I have three sides of the family able to be in one place at one time, but I have no idea what to do about my dad's side of the family. It would be different if it was just a friend throwing it. Should I tell my dad about the situation and just to let them know... or what? I would like to celebrate with my step mom, step sisters, grandma, aunts, etc. on my dad's side, but I don't want to be "asking" for a bridal shower. I was thinking about telling my dad about the situation (he would be understanding) so they don't think they were just neglected from the process. Ugh. I swear I hope I never get divorced. It is so complicated. But anyways, what do you think? Tell my dad or just let them bring it up if they are wanting to do something for me?