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destination save the date wording.. help!

Hey guys.. quick question. I am getting ready to send out my save the dates, and I was going to include a little insert with a message with something along the lines of :I know I am being a huge pain and getting married away from home, we would love it if you could come, but you really won't hurt our feelings if you can't make it.Haha I can't come up with a "nice" way of wording that so it doesn't either sound like I don't want people to come, or that I am trying to guilt people into it. I know it really is an inconvenience so I don't want people to feel obligated if they are short on cash/time... any suggestions? Thanks!

Re: destination save the date wording.. help!

  • I was lurking but I thought I should give my 2 cents.Honestly, I wouldn't even add the insert. It just focuses on the fact that it's a DW and that you feel bad if they can't make it. Just send the STD as is.  You'll be surprised at the number of guests that may be able to come without you adding the insert.  
  • I agree w/ pp.  Don't add that.  An invite is just that - an invitation.  It doesn't obligate anyone to go.  You don't need to tell them they don't have to go - they know that.  You just sound self-conscious if you say what you're suggesting, and there's no reason to be.  You can say that stuff in person to ppl - if they say they can't make it.  Otherwise, just be happy about those that can come, and leave it at that.
  • I agree w/ pp's....don't include it. It almost sounds like "I'm only sending this to you out of obligation and we're getting married far away because we don't want you to come."Just send the STD without any disclaimers. People aren't going to feel obligated...if they don't want to come or can't afford to come, then they won't.
  • I too agree with the PP's, do not include such an insert. 
  • You probably don't need this, but agreed!  Maybe if you still want something like that you can have a website for people to visit with more information and can break out a personal message on there?  I did something like that and included the website on my save the dates.  This is my website link if you are interested..I did not so much say "sorry" as "this is why we chose this and understand if you can't make it".  Cut and paste the link below:http://www.theknot.com/ourwedding/JamieRizzuto&SeanCrisden
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  • I agree. You are not obligating anyone to attend. Sure, you would love them to come. But you don't need to explain your intentions. Any wedding (even local) is a cash/time expense on some level. They should understand/know you to realize you're not going to hold it against them if they don't go. :)
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  • Thanks guys! I didn't even think about it that way but that makes sense.. and pretty much everyone who is getting invited knows about it somewhat anyway so I don't think anyone will get the wrong idea with just the save the date.. thanks for the input!
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