bridal shower

stephrubia

we're from ny but getting married in new orleans.  we dont have any family down there, we just love the city.  being that everyone has to travel to be there, i think it's too much to ask to have a bridal shower.  is it? 

bellebride116

Usually someone just throws you a bridal shower... you don't have to ask for one.

mn2italy

If someone offers, then go for it. Usually your MOH plans it.

suzannepdc

Absolutely not!  You are still getting married!  Techincially, the MOH or bridal party throws it, but in every single wedding that I have been in, the MOB has done it (which I think I read somewhere is bad ettiquette, but whatever, since this has run the gamet of family/friends and different parts of the country).

I'm not having one because most of the guests that were invited to my sisters' showers are no longer alive and finding a weekend/location was going to be too hard.

captainleela

I don't think I would ask for one, but if someone offers to throw it I don't think there's anything wrong with having one.

stephrubia

oh i'm not asking for one.  i was telling them they shouldn't do it but they felt like they should.  my moh and bridesmaid was asking for a guest list.  i felt like it was asking for too much from our guests.

captainleela

People want to celebrate with you. If it really makes you uncomfortable make it a "no gifts" shower and just play games and socialize with your guests. I had to travel several thousand miles for my best friend's wedding and I still really wanted to throw her a shower. As a guest I would have been disappointed if she didn't have one. But ultimately it's your decision so if you really don't want one then just let your bridesmaids know that.

carrieoz_76

I know how you feel.  I don't want to overburden my friends with expense after expense, either.  I had a friend offer to throw a shower b/c she knows my BMs are OOT.  She'll probably do that, and we'll keep the guest list really small.  I have some local friends who I think will want to celebrate even though they may not be able to come to the wedding, so I'm happy to let them.  I don't expect those going all the way to HI for our wedding to spend buckets on presents.