I am having a semi-destination US wedding that will be about a 10 hour drive for both of our families. We are from different parts of the country and FI really wanted something that wouldn't favor either family, so we went neutral. I'm still not totally comfortable with it and it's been decided and deposits have been sent in. I think what I'm most worried about is my family's reaction. My parents were very negative about it and wanted it in my hometown and said that I was going to make it hard on everyone. I'm sure this must be a common reaction that most people have encountered. I'm feeling a lot of guilt about asking people to make the trip. My friends have all been very excited about it and think it'll be a lot of fun, but I always get a knot in my stomach when I tell someone because I know I'm basically saying "We've decided to make you pay thousands for us." I think I need some help with getting over it and maybe some validation that I'm not a terrible person .