October 2012 Weddings

First meeting with our pastor - check!

FI and I had our first premarital counseling session with our pastor this morning. We'll be meeting with him once a month up until the wedding, which is only like SEVEN months away. Crazy!!! I was super nervous about it, but it really wasn't bad at all. I felt like a bit of an idiot tho, because as soon as we got in there he was like... uh, you guys should probably bring your bibles next time. Which is a huge duh on both of our parts I realize, but I had specifically asked FI when he came and picked me up if I needed anything and he told me no. Again, I obviously sould have realized. But next time I will be bringing my bible, and a notebook and something to write with. I will be prepared, lol.

He talked to us a little bit about the ceremony, and had a "ceremony planning book" that he is going to make copies of. It has readings, and the order of things and what not, and we'll kind of get to pick and choose different thing to make it suit us. Which will be very nice, I am happy about that. We also talked about the "four rules of communication" which is something they have taught at our church for a long time so we were very familiar with them (Be honest, keep current, attack the problem not the person, and act, don't react).  He also said he is going to give us a workbook to go through together, and we got homework for next time, lol.

It feels so so much more real now, lol.

Anyone else going through counseling now or anytime soon? I know I have seen a few things on here about meetings with Pastors.

Re: First meeting with our pastor - check!

  • We have to complete 5 before we get married, he has not scheduled the first one yet...thank you for posting this...kind of gives me a heads up...I will not forget the good book at home :)
  • shoebieshoebie member
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    edited March 2012
    We did our 2 nights of pre cana a few months ago and have had one meeting with our priest, we have 2 more to go ebfore the wedding. 
  • We go to different churches right now and I am hoping my grandfather will marry us. I haven't asked him yet (I need to get on that).

    I would like to have some type of pre-marital counseling but I really don't have money to pay an additional cost right now. I think it is a great idea though. I should look into it to see if either of our churches offer it even if we aren't getting married there or having anyone from the church officiate.

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  • Typically every church requires you to do pre cana or counseling before they marry you at no additional charge then what you pay to use the church the day of. Good luck 
  • I would definitely ask Petal! We aren't being charged anything other than the honorarium we are paying the day of for him to marry us.

    I felt like such a ditz, but I havealso sort of been out of it all day because I am fairly certain I suffered a mild concussion at my indoor soccer game last night. I've been feeling sort of foggy, so hopefully I get my brain back soon.
  • FI and I did pre-cana over a weekend last July and so far we have met with our priest 4 times. Each time we discuss something different, anything from why we want to get married in a catholic church, what it means to us, a couple of times it turned into a real counseling session, i dont remember why exactly...

    Side note: our original priest had a brain hemorrhage, he recovered but they transferred him to a church in Troy, so after meeting with him 3x, we only met once with the new priest who is marrying us, it lasted about 15 min just a meet and greet...he said he probably will only meet with us 2 more times so we can go over readings and some other stuff...he is a little more laid back then our original priest (thank god!)
  • We had our first meeting 2 weeks ago.  We need to go twice more, the 2nd session is scheduled at the end of this month.

    I really like our pastor and it didn't even feel like 'counseling', it just felt like we were sitting down and chatting with a friend. :)
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  • Oh GoSH this makes me feel behind...while I've spoken with my church about marrying there I have not talked with a pastor. I do not want my churches pastor to marry us. Nothing against him but he didn't know my Dad and I really want someone who knew my Dad to be there to do it. It was between our old pastor and my aunts brother, Troy. I decided since Troy is ALMOST family and he's known me my whole life and my mom 95%of hers (they went to school together) and my Dad for many many many years too that I want to ask him...but I don't want to pick up the phone to do that and I have no idea what Church he's at or how to go about asking!
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