Tricky bridal shower situation

violakat03

My MOH was originally going to do my bridal shower, but she's starting nursing school soon and is afraid she won't have the time and/or money for the shower and the bachelorette party. She would rather take care of the latter and asked me to see if anyone else would be willing to do the shower.

The problem is, I know it's bad manners to ask for a bridal shower, so how do I let it be known that she's looking for someone to take care of it without seeming greedy? She doesn't want me to end up not having one, so if no one says they'll take care of it, she'll still do it, but she doesn't know most of the BMs very well so she doesn't feel comfortable asking them.

Simply_Caitlin

I hate to say it, but she really should talk to the other bridesmaids.  If she's not comfortable with that, how about your mom?  If she's more comfortable with that maybe she can enlist your mom's help to talk to the other bridesmaids.

She doesn't have to ask them to throw you a shower exactly, but maybe just get together and say "hey I have x, y and z going on but I want her to have a shower, can anyone help?"

You might even consider having a "girls day" and invite your bridesmaids and let your MOH casually bring it up then.

CFM102012

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[QUOTE] She doesn't have to ask them to throw you a shower exactly, but maybe just get together and say "hey I have x, y and z going on but I want her to have a shower, can anyone help?" You might even consider having a "girls day" and invite your bridesmaids and let your MOH casually bring it up then.
Posted by Simply_Caitlin[/QUOTE]

<div>I like Caitlin's ideas.  Your only (as far as I can see) option is to wait and if any of the other girls ask you about your shower just say that MOH was going to throw one for you but can't now.  It doesn't do anything more than let them know that the "hosting position" is open. If they choose to take it up and offer to throw you a shower than great...if not then I guess you either don't have one or MOH is back on it if she offers again.</div>