What is a handfasting? Is it "normal" to include it in a nonreligious ceremony?
My officiant sent me a few sample ceremonies so I could get ideas from them. All 3 of them had a handfasting included. It looks like some sort of prayer / poem. I've been to several weddings and don't remember this being done before, and honestly I don't even know what a handfasting is. It just seems weird to me.
But I'm worried that if I take it out the ceremony will be too short, considering that it was about 1/3 of the ceremony text (not including music/readings). The wedding will be outdoors so we won't have any instruments, so basically it will be processional, 3 minutes of officiant speech, maybe a reading, vows, and recessional. I don't want a 5-minute wedding ceremony!