Ceremony NOT in a church?

lv2011

So, I found out today that the annulment from my ex-husband may yet take another 6-9 months before completion. As a Catholic, I knew I wasn't techinically supposed to be planning a wedding during the process, but both FI and I agreed that we didn't want to wait to begin our lives together-- especially when there's no guarantee that the process will end in our favor. I started the process a year ago, too, so the time that this is taking and will continue to take is a bit frustrating.  We're both Catholic, as are our families, so we're really bummed that we won't be able to have our ceremony in the church. Now we begin the process of trying to plan a ceremony that means as much to us as the church ceremony would have.

For you ladies not getting married in a church, how are you making your ceremony special? Are you incorporating unique touches that speak to you and your FI as a couple? Are sticking with a more traditional process? Who is marrying you? A hired officiant? A family member?

I'd really appreciate any insight into what can be done in lieu of the church ceremony. Thanks all!

KmuJmg

I am seriously happy to see that so many of us are writing out own ceremony!!!

FI and I are both attorneys and we are getting married by two judges (one is his and one is mine).
We are having a non-religious ceremony outdoors and I hope that is will focus on our love and commitment and the people we love the most.

We should definitely help each other out when we get down to the writing process. I've been collecting things I like.

 

Simply_Caitlin

My brother and his wife had their wedding ceremony outside.  Her uncle officiated the ceremony, which made it beautiful because he had gotten to know my brother as well as he could so it was a very personal ceremony.  You could tell he loved him like family already too.

If it's personal, it will be special.

nani1012

The ceremony will be held outside in the state park. There will be an officiant, but we are deciding the details of the ceremony. We are including an honoring of our parents (they mean alot to us) and doing a rock ceremony (similar to the sand ceremony, but with rocks) to join the families.