Registry Cards in Invitations

emidle2008

I  sometimes frequent the Etiquette boards, and I know the girls there feel very adamant about not including registry cards with your invitations. However, I am wondering if the is a regional thing. Out of the past three weddings I've attended (all here in IN), all invites included a business card sized insert saying something like "GROOM and BRIDE have registered at X, Y, and Z". I was not insulted. I liked knowing where they registered without having to bother the bride by calling or texting her. I am thinking of including a small, nice card printed on cardstock to include in our invites. What do you think? Are you including registry notes in your invites? 

violakat03

A good friend is getting married in two weeks, and when we got her invite, I asked myself "wow, really?" about two huge etiquette faux pas it included. One, they put a sticker on the outside of the pocketfold with their registry information (which I didn't necessarily find rude, but did find it tacky as it cheapened the overall feel of the invitation), and they included a postcard for the RSVP with no return postage, so I had to find a postcard stamp in order to RSVP for us. My mom was really surprised at the lack of return postage, but she didn't see anything out of the ordinary with the registry information. We personally are not including any registry information, but are including the website for "additional information." We aren't blocking any hotel rooms because the nearest hotels are 30 miles way in opposite directions and we don't have enough guests coming from far enough away that they'd need a hotel 30 miles away, to receive any kind of discounts.

lehc723

I read the Weddingbee blogs, and one of the new "Bee Bloggers" is from Western Pennsylvania and says, like you do, that it may be regional but that it's very common. I'll disagree with PPs here then and say that if you're really sure that the people you're sending these to are going to be expecting a registry card then I guess go with it. But, I do agree with the PPs personally: I've never seen it done, and wouldn't do it.

The blog post I was talking about is on the Weddingbee website: click here to read it, if anyone's curious.

emidle2008

Thanks for the input! FI and I are having a semi-casual wedding. We are paying for it ourselves and are inviting only family and friends (all from IN). I did have one BM tell me that she expects a little registry note in invitations and that she would call me up and ask me what I wanted, not where I was registered. Also, we have quite a few older people on our list who don't have a computer. So while we have a wedding website, they won't check it, and I doubt many other guests will too.

Thanks for the link, Lehc! I personally agree with the blogger about making it convenient for the guests. Plus I would be annoyed if my phone (or anyone in the WP's) was ringing constantly by people wanting to know where we registered. 

Nothing has been decided yet. We aren't sending out invites until August. It just got me thinking when I received an invite to a friend's wedding a week ago. Thanks again for the input. I know I would have been tarred and feathered if I asked this on the E board. 

BrittneyRN

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_october-2012-weddings_registry-cards-in-invitations?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:56b9bcef-1e34-456e-81f5-cfaa107456b2Discussion:716316f4-47cc-4eea-b89c-1204f3633dd9Post:8917e059-212a-4e98-a391-e3976cdb3072">Re: Registry Cards in Invitations</a>:
[QUOTE]Thanks for the input! FI and I are having a semi-casual wedding. We are paying for it ourselves and are inviting only family and friends (all from IN). I did have one BM tell me that she expects a little registry note in invitations and that she would call me up and ask me what I wanted, not where I was registered. Also, we have quite a few older people on our list who don't have a computer. So while we have a wedding website, they won't check it, and I doubt many other guests will too. Thanks for the link, Lehc! I personally agree with the blogger about making it convenient for the guests. Plus I would be annoyed if my phone (or anyone in the WP's) was ringing constantly by people wanting to know where we registered.  Nothing has been decided yet. We aren't sending out invites until
August. It just got me thinking when I received an invite to a friend's wedding a week ago.
Thanks again for the input. I know I would have been tarred and feathered if I asked this on the E board. 
Posted by emidle2008[/QUOTE]



Honestly, please do not go off of the advice of one misinformed wedding blogger. Every poster but, one advices you to not sent the invite info in the invite. It really is tacky. I'd just have your family spread it by word of mouth.

cokie216

I have no idea if it's a regional thing but I would guess that the people including the cards in their invites don't know that it goes against etiquette.  The stores that give these cards out are in the business of making money and that's all. 

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I am from IN also and every wedding I have been invited to always included Registry Cards. I never knew it was a no-no until I joined TheKnot and read what everyone said about it. And even knowing that it's bad etiquette, I still would not be offended by any means if someone sends me their wedding invite with the registry information. I've always liked it because it lets me know what to get the couple without having to call around (especially if I only know the bride and/or groom). Although, we are not sending them with our invitations, not because of bad etiquette but because we are having a small wedding and talk on a daily basis with most of our guests so if they ask we can just tell them.

megagliardi

I think I've seen it in almost every invitation that I've gotten! Maybe it is regional (NYC suburb here) but I didn't think 2x about it.

And I do have to say that my mother is EMILY POST crazy (holy cow, you would think the Queen was coming to our wedding) and she didn't think twice about it either!