I'm not very close to my dad's side of the family (especially since my parents got divorced amost 17 years ago - and my mom moved my brother and I up north - my dad's family is here in Texas) so we don't talk or see each other very often. My grandma passed away on mother's day. Its unfortunate and I'm going to miss her, but at the same time she lived a long and fulfilling life. I wasn't able to make it to the viewing or funeral due to finances, work, & the 8 hour one way trip.
Well yesterday my grandpa calls me about some stuff that my grandma wanted me to have and needed my address to send it. As we were talking he comes out and says "EJ, why are you getting married? I don't understand this business of you getting married. Help me to understand. You've been living with this boy for how many years now? What's the point of getting married now? You're doing it all backwards, and it's wrong what you're doing. Its against the scripture and its offensive to God." -- A little back story my grandpa is a Southern Baptist pastor and has been since he was in his twenties so almost 60 years --
I felt a little sucker punched. I tried to stay calm but I was so angry. I haven't talked to him in a long time and we were just talking about my grandma and then he comes out and says something like that. I told him I disagreed with him, but I love my FI and I'm ready to be his wife. I told him that we needed to agree to disagree and to stop talking about it because it was making me upset. That seemed to open up a can of worms and it escalated much further than it needed to. To end the call I told him if had such a problem with it then he didn't need to come to the wedding and if was going to come and cause problems I didn't want him there anyways.
I feel aweful for letting my anger get the best of me and saying something so childish, but at the same time my feelings are still hurt. My mom did give me some good advice and told me that in the end it doesn't matter if he does come, or any other guest who tries to cause problems because they all are going home afterwards and at the end of the day I am going to married to my FI. I'm going to try and call my grandfather back to apologize for my outburst, and that I still want him to come but there are certain subjects we should avoid discussing.
HOWEVER! Despite all my anger about that when I was talking to my mom about it she told me that my brother's wife (who is also my BM) just found out she's pregnant! I'm so excited for them. I can't believe my little brother is going to be a dad. Its kind of surreal. Luckily the dress I picked will be able to accommodate her belly. I can't wait until January!