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ivedonethisb4

Your idea sounds more sensible IMO!

mrshall1027

Your idea sounds way better.  The other way seems to be much more work for you and much for confusing for your guests.  I would just include a separate RSVP card for the other two events.  Maybe put the info and rsvp section for the dinner on one side then put the info and rspv section for the brunch on the other side.  Good luck!

achiduck

Sorry you're having so much trouble with your mom. Is it possible to send your invites out 10-12 weeks before and include the itinerary with an RSVP for the events for OOT guests. 

fishinflagrl

I do not think you are being bridezilla. I completely agree with your idea. I think your mom is overthinking a little. I know I would be a confused guest, and not only that...but I would lose the darn thing by wedding day and completely forget about all the dates times..this and that. You are right!

violakat03

I agree 100% with everything the PP said.

June is too far in advance to have any idea what someone's doing in October. If someone sent me an invite for a dinner party that far in advance, I know I'd lose the invite by the time it got there (I'm very scatterbrained), so I'd probably completely forget about it when making my travel plans a month out.

I really like the idea of just including it with the invites for OOT guests. It keeps everything in a simple package so they don't have multiple envelopes to deal with. It also lessens the chance that one will get lost in the mail, as now it's just one envelope instead of two. People are more likely to hold on to a wedding invite and put it somewhere important, so if they're packaged together, they'll both be kept together. I know when I get a wedding invite I stick it to my fridge so I know exactly where it is, so I'd do the same with the dinner/brunch invite if they were together.

shoebie

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_october-2012-weddings_help-my-mother-is-batsht-crazy-sorry-long-as-are-most-mother-dramas?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:56b9bcef-1e34-456e-81f5-cfaa107456b2Discussion:b8a0d8e4-c0aa-4d80-bc7d-1e1843811e43Post:ad502b49-3dba-4dde-9f42-fe6fe8ab90c5">Re: Help! My mother is batsh*t crazy. (Sorry, long, as are most mother dramas)</a>:
[QUOTE]Thanks ladies.  FI and I spoke to them and convinced them the RSVP card was a bad idea.  They're now planning on doing an itinerary that includes a mention of the actual wedding, although they said "well, normally you don't get any information about the wedding until the invitation"...which was sort of my point in the first place.  They agreed to send out the invites the last week of July with an RSVP date of Sept. 1, which I still think is early, but it's better than doing it the way they wanted to originally.  Only trouble is when we spoke to them my mom said she hadn't planned on inviting any of FI's OOT family to the events because so much of FI's family is in town and she didn't think it was a big deal. I don't think that many of them will even stay at the hotel and be taking the shuttle or wanting to eat dinner with strangers rather than their own in-town family, but it's really more of the principle of the matter that she didn't seem to care what they did or what happened to them.  I sort of flipped out at her, which probably wasn't a great call, but it was so infuriating to hear her completely disregard FI's family, who I love and who are going to be my family, too.  If the shuttle is available for hotel guests, in my mind that should include all the wedding guests at the hotel no matter whose side they're on. 
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</div><div>Arent the extra activities usually for the oot guests since they travelled far for your wedding? Im completly baffled by your parents logic.

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