I feel like I'm going backwards

udream05

So we had the bridesmaids dresses picked out 2 months ago, now the girls are having second thoughts and want to go shopping again.  I'm ok with that since after seeing the dress in on the computer it didn't photograph but my one friend who can be difficult is now being difficult about when we can go dress shopping and when she's going to order hers etc.. it's starting to piss me off.  I'm gonna hit up Alfred Angelo's this weekend to try some on and see if I like any of them before we all go but if she's going to be this impossible then what's the point!! grrr And they could have told me this a month ago since it's almost time to have to order these dresses.

I also went shoe shopping after work today.  I was so excited to find my shoes.. but that was a complete fail.. two malls later and still nothing! Will try DSW tomorrow after that, I'm not exaclty sure what I'm going to do. 

Oh and now I'm really starting to stress over the guest list.  I've become closer with more people at work so I want to invite more but not sure how many we have room for but we also need to do my shower before one of my best friend's moves so I'd need to decide sooner than later if I'm going to invite them so she can know if she needs to invite them to the shower.  And then I was having this conversation with another girl at work about not wanting kids at my wedding and how to tell my other bridesmaid that I don't want her kids at my wedding (of course nicer than that, but that's the gist) So then this girl from work said she'd be insulted if her kids weren't invited to the wedding and I assumed she meant if she were in the same situation as my friend which made sense but then she referenced another work friend who would have had a baby by that time and would bring the baby to the wedding.  Which first of all the baby would be a month old so I tihnk that's a bit riduculous and unrealistic but does this other firend think her kids would be invited to the wedding, I don't even know them! the only kids I'm considering are my bridesmaid's kids since no one else had kids except this one work friend.  So annoyed about that and stressed out!

Rhea0106

I am sorry that you are having such a difficult time with everything. I really hope that you get things worked out witn your one BM. I have heard tons of stories, including my own BM, who is also getting married a month before me, who is going through the same thing with her own BM. She is being a complete drama queen and it is unfortunate and I feel bad for her. As for the baby situation. I have a 7 year old and a 15 month old, my fiance and I are invited to a wedding in august and as of right now, I believe it is understood that there aren't to be any kids there, we are completely understanding of this. Some people just don't want children at their wedding. We don't take it personally. I have read online that people have wording on their invitations "adult reception." I hope that you're able to get this worked out and find some support.

fjw2012

Honestly, if they are that upset about not being able to bring their kids, then it's their loss. There is absolutely nothing wrong with not wanting kids at your wedding. Parents should be and as PP stated can be understanding of this. If they care about you they'll make an effort to be there, kids or no kids, if not don't let it ruin your day. 

As far as the BM I'm kinda having the same problem. We have their dresses picked out and two of them have already purchased them and already have them at their houses. The other three however, I feel I am going to have a problem with. I want them to have purchased them by May 12 which is 5 months before the wedding. I don't think that is unreasonable. I sent a text message reminding them of that, and only one even responded. UGH. The one is really ticking me off because I was her MOH and her one and only bridesmaid. I planned her shower, bachelorette party and handled all other wedding realted things she asked me to. I worked overtime to pay for things for her, and she can't even take the time to purchase a dress? I mean come on. (sorry that turned into my own mini rant) 

I guess all you can do is pick out the dresses and if she isn't willing to make time to come she'll have to deal with what everyone else picks out. It sounds mean, but someitmes you just gotta put your foot down.