What a day ! Long Emotional Vent

shoebie

Well I went dress shopping today with my bridesmaids and aunt (my moms deceased its her sister). I did find the one its the same one i have tried on 3 times ! Im excited about that but the rest of the day has been hell to say the least and I have spent the last hour roughly crying in my bed, My aunt basically tore apart my dress saying it was mess wrinkley ugly etc etc she hated it and let it be known. She has money... great for her I found a dress I love love love for $400 and she says if you want a $2,000 dress we can go to klienfields this weekend and get one you dont need to settle for "that". I love "that" dress. Ugh. Moving on.... bridesmaids dresses have been set for a year, we get there today they did not look great on everyone) so we changed the dress ok thats fine i agree they needed a diffrent dress.... moving on bridesmaids where set to alternate colors 1st one in blue next in pink and so on it looks awesome well she trashed that idea and as a florist tells me it will be imposible to do flowers for alternating dresses etc so i snapped at her and told her then they wont hold flowers. Then she gets them all in blue and proceeds to say yeah thats it they look great like that lets do that etc etc etc...  And then starts saying somethign about silver shoes and i snapped again no silver ! Im just ready to scream I have had this day planned for 2 years and now everything is changing on me. To top it of Fi wants to get shoes like air jordons or somethign for all the guys to wear so much is changing in one day I just cant handle it today ! Sorry thanks for listening sorry for any misspellings or the lack there of puncuation i can barely see the screen through my tears right now. 

BMBrinson

Breathe! Its going to be ok! If you have your day planned the way you want it than maybe a conversation with your aunt and tell her how this makes you feel. Its your wedding and if your footing the bill than its your choice. Maybe you can talk FI into wearing his shoes at the reception and for some pictures and not the ceremony. I hope your vision for the day works out! Have you talked to a florist (another one) about the flowers? I don't see how that would be difficult, if your willing to pay for than what does it matter how difficult it is?

shoebie

We paid and are paying for our wedding 100% We gave her $900 for flowers and told her that was our budget to work in it. Our colors are blue and pink and you owuld think they where rainbow the way she is telling people its going to look like a circus and people ill talk. Alls it comes don to is shes a rich entitled bi*ch and absolutly ruined this day for me. There is no reason she cant get floers to match if someone else came in with my color combo she would accomadate them.... I already bought a wedding dress last year a blue one that i loved she had a sh*t fit about it so i agreeded to get a white one and now she still has issues. Its just the family dynamics she cant think outside the box its been like this my whole life. I dident even tell her i as wearing adidas sandles under my dress i can only imagine that fight. The ay she acts you would think she footed the 20k for our wedding when she has not given a cent to it. 

As for fi thats resolved we are going to go look at shoes he likes and what not It wasent really the shoes that bothered me it was just after this day him piling that on just was another thing. 

bbrabson

Politely tell your Aunt that although you appreciate her input, this is what you want and that it is YOUR dream wedding, not hers.  Also, tell her you asked around and there are a few other florists who can accomidate your idea and if she can't, you will look elsewhere.  She is out of line.  I am sorry that this is stressing you out so badly.  Keep in mind that no matter what happens, it'g going to be an amazing day and when it's over you will be MARRIED!!!

rmo57536

I had a similar problem with my mom last weekend. She's OOT so when she came to visit I was catching her up on things I got and so on. The look on her face and the sound she made when I showed her my shoes you would have thought I was going to wear a dead rat or something. Personally I love my shoes, no they aren't the typical ivory or white but I like color.

Whenever she starts offering unsolicited opinions I just listen and then restate what I'm doing and move on. We're paying for majority of our wedding too, she bought my dress and FIL are covering RD and the bar, so as long as it's something I love I don't really care what anyone else says.

Also I worked at a florist and alternating dresses would not be impossible to work with AT ALL! Do what you want, don't let someone talk you into a cookie cutter wedding if it's not what you and FI want. Just take a deep breath everything will be fine. I know it's frustrating when people shoot down all your ideas, like PP said the only thing that matters is that you are getting married. If others don't like how you did it too bad as long as it was perfect to you and FI.

shoebie

Thanks ladies, shes just crazy I dont kno why i let it upset me so much i have been dealing with it my whole life. The breaking point was when she called this a circus

bbrabson

Maybe Cirque du adorable!!!! 

music11

Don't let her influence you or your happiness. Go with the colors and dresses YOU like.

pengy16

im sure we have all had days like this or will have a day like this sometime in our planning. We just need to breathe, take a step back to relax, and go back about our planing the way we want.
If she isnt footing the bill, she really has no say in the matter.