Would you do this?

spuliafico

This happened to my best friend and I just want to get opinions on if we're judging this whole situation wrong:My best friend was invited to one of her close firends Bridal Showers (and she assumed to the wedding). This person told my best friend for months that she really wanted this dining room set off her bridal registry, well my best friend bought it for her! I couldn't believe it! Well then July, when the wedding was supposed to be, came and went, she hadn't even recieved an invitation. A week ago she recieved a text from this girl that said "We had to postpone the wedding cause of costs but we're rescheduled for next year. We're only inviting close friends and family so you aren't on the list, but if you want you can come to my next bridal shower". I about lost my mind...not only because she isn't inviting her to the wedding but because she's having another bridal shower? Is that customary if you reschedule your wedding?!

OFF

That is not just tacky it's so rude and inconsiderate I can't even put it into words. I'm not sure why your friend would by someone such an expensive gift (furniture stuff is usually bought by family) but after laying out that kind of money she should def be considered a close friend. I'm not sure what the ettiquette of having more than one shower is but at least she could do is return the gifts from the first shower. Well at least your bff now knows not to buy her another gift!

spuliafico

I asked her why she would buy such a huge gift and she said "She told me she really wanted it and I liked it so I wanted to get it for her" she's just a genuinely nice person. But she felt bad being upset and I was absolutely livid for her so I needed other opinions on if I was crazy lol

fchan1

No way - this was WAAAAY rude!!! I had a related post on this earlier - and basic etiquette, plus general consensus - is that if you're going to wedding-related events, including showers and bach/engagement parties, you should also be invited to the wedding. The fact that your friends spent a crapload of money for a gift, assuming that she was getting an invite to the wedding (and it doesn't sound like the bride-to-be made any indication otherwise at the time) to then not hear anything AT ALL when the wedding was supposed to take place and THEN find out via TEXT MESSAGE that she's NOT invited to the postponed wedding after all - and THEN basically being told that she's NOT a close friend - oh wow...sorry, I'm rambling cuz I'm mad for your friend too!!

luv4weddings

agree with PPs.  What I can't get over is that the bride told her this by TEXT.  unbelievable!

vitamint

wow, that's beyond rude. Even if you reschedule your wedding, you don't get to have another shower unless you returned all of the gifts to the people who gave them, after the firt shower.

razdazzle_22377334

Wow, I cannot believe this.  Very rude and tacky.  And a great way to lose friends.

esthersandy12

I'm upset as if it happened to me.  Then to invite her to the second shower as if she didn't already buy her a huge gift????  Where they do that at?????  She's an idiot for lack of a  better word.

m_masino

People crack me up!  I was invited to a wedding and didn't attend.  It was far away, and I didn't feel close to the person anymore (friend from HS--long time ago).  I guess I was invited to the shower too, and I politely declined.  I sent a wedding gift after her wedding date with a note saying sorry I couldn't be there.  She sent a thank you note saying...thank for the bridal shower gift!  I was like...hey...that's all you're getting...wtf!