we've had our photo/video people set up for months. friend of fmil goes to wedding where they used the same company, and says video guy was MIA at important moments, and had to be tracked down. i called today to find out where to meet our photographer for the epics this weekend, and (maybe i shouldn't have), but i mentioned what i heard at this wedding. i really was polite on the phone, said i didn't want to cause trouble, but was concerned about this. turns out it's the same video guy. instead of the company reassuring me that he's great, people love him, and he'll do a good job.... they say, he's the best, if you don't want him, we'll switch, everyone wants him. so i didn't want to switch, if "he's the best," but i said i just wanted to make sure something like that wouldn't happen to me. he said he'd make a note, and now i'm the bitchy bride with a note in my file... i feel so bullied..