AW: Wedding website!

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 http://rafiandgina2011.weebly.com/index.html
       

cutie4420

I obviously dont know the whole story between you and your Dad, but from looking at your website, its seems extremely rude that you have Rafis parents, your Mom and Stepdad and nothing about your Dad. Especially that you mentioned he is paying for a big part the wedding!

dibsontop

First of all, I'm sorry you have to deal with family drama when your trying to plan your wedding.  I also don't know the story between you and your dad, but if you're comfortable allowing him to pay for part of your wedding, it would be nice to include him with everyone else on the website (even if you don't think he'll see it).

I guess it's just hard for me to understand because I've never had this type of relationship with a parent of mine.

rachelk456

I can see why you would debate this, especially since you don't seem to have a good relationship and he has been rude to you in the past. I agree with PP though and think you should be the bigger person and include him. I think not including him could start some drama that could be easily avoided. 

jessica0602

It sounds like you had your mind made up before you even asked for opinions here.  Bottom line is that it's really tacky to include everyone except the one person who is footing the bill.  I'd definitely give you the side eye if I were one of your guests.

miguelhilary2010

I think that if your dad is alive and is even a little bit involved in your life, he should be acknowledged on the Wedding Party page.  Not to mention the fact that he's contributing money to pay for a part of your wedding day... regardless of the reason.  Even if you don't want his pic plastered on there, at least put "Dad's Name - Not Pictured" under The Bride's Parents section.

If you really disagree with your father's intentions for contributing money, maybe you should just tell him you appreciate the offer but don't accept it.  There are ALWAYS strings attached to accepting money, and it seems his strings are the ability to claim that HE provided your wedding day for you.  It's up to you to decide if you're willing to accept that.

Good luck!  Sorry you have family drama while you're planning your wedding.

PS - I don't see the problem with your engagement pic.  It's obviously candid and captures a very real and sweet moment.

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thanks guys.   My dad isn't footing the entire bill, just the reception (food and drinks) which i know is a lot, but i probably should.  Long story short, my dad was abusive in many ways for 13 + years, and still is to me now, but just emotionally.  i want nothing to do with him but he's still in my life and i'm afraid i'd feel guilty the rest of my life if i didnt have him there at the wedding , just b/c he is still my dad. 
 i guess i was hoping for validation but i think what you said hilary is a good idea.

 thanks

Amerbutt81

Completely honest?  If the money means nothing to you, and you don't have a great relationship with him, then I wouldn't accept the money from him at all. 

But that's just me.