I do need opinions, but please be nice!!
So... my FI and I invited too many people to our wedding (like, 43 too many), which was due to my FMIL telling us, well, if you invite so and so you have to invite all of these other people. Not to mention that since my FI has two kids and I don't have any, we decided to invite all of the kids of our adult guests so we can make this a family event. I'm good with all of this. But, we are on a tight budget. As, I know there are a lot of brides on this board who are also on a tight budget. So, we have 112 people paid for at this point, as far as dinner goes. I love polish style food, so we're having a polish buffet. YUM! We invited 283 people. I'm so not happy about this. I told my FI that if more than 140 people RSVP Yes, then we have to cut back somewhere. I told him I thought the best thing to do would be to cut out the use of the venue's china. It's $3/person to use it, plus a 17% service fee for the caterer to use it, clean it, and put it back. The caterer has this really nice plasticware that you can't tell is plastic, until you pick it up. It's ivory with a gold rim. I think it's cute and will be just fine for our guests to use it. I really don't think our guests are going to be so snobby that the plasticware would be the memory of our wedding that sticks in their minds the most. But, FI really doesn't want to serve our guests food on plastic, he wants the china. I don't know where else to cut money from... the alcohol? My question to you all that I need your opinions on, is, if you were a guest at a wedding and you ate your food off of plastic that was nice plasticware, would you be offended or think we were 'cheap' because of it? I don't want people to think we're cheap... I'm just trying to be frugal and stick within our budget. Plus, since we are having kids at the wedding and reception, I would worry about a piece of china getting broken. I'm sure that can happen with adults, as well. But, still... Oh, sorry this ended up being so long. Good grief.