So FI's best friend is a girl and they have been best friends for a few years now so we decided it would be a good idea for her to be on the groom's side since she is better friends with FI than me. However, she was also pretty good friends with me for a few years. After we told her, she was excited about being the "best man," started planning, and said she was happy for us. She started dating someone shortly after we got engaged and during this time she talked about how she was happy and couldn't wait until she got married etc. Well she and her boyfriend broke up about 8 months ago and since then she has been very mean to me. We all used to joke around and laugh at each other before she was with her ex boyfriend and while she was with him. But now if FI says something jokingly to her she makes a face and retaliates by saying something mean about me. She is constantly verbally attacking me. For awhile I just blew it off but then she started saying things about how she can't believe we are getting married and she wouldn't get married until she was in her late 30's at least. We have several other friends that are also getting married in 2010 and she says nothing but nice things to them. FI and I both know it's because she is jealous because she is one of the only single people within our group of friends. So I let it go and didn't let it bother me until about 3 months ago when she decided to take it to the next level. Lately she started talking about her speech and telling us what she is putting in it. Well it's pretty much a bash on me. I know that there is usually a funny thing in the speech that may poke fun of the couple but it's in a loving joking way and then the rest of the speech is usually about how they are happy for the couple or the couple is great together (you girls know). Well everything she has said so far are "stupid things that i've said" by mistake, or mean things about me. She is also very socially awkward. She doesn't really know how to act when she is around others and what is appropriate to say and what isn't. For example we went camping once and we walked into the ranger station to get a site and she just blurted out to the ranger that she has had her "period for three weeks." Also whenever she meets people she immediately tells them she is "waiting for marriage." So we are kind of worried about her saying something very inappropriate at the beginning of the speech and then following it by making fun of me. We were thinking of telling her that the MOH typically pre-approves all speeches so the MOH can make sure there is no overlap or anything inappropriate in the speeches. We know that the "best (wo)man" won't know that we made this up and we thought this would be a good way of checking without hurting her. What do you ladies think we should do? FI told me he wishes we would have just made his brother the best man and left her as a bridesmaid, but it is too late now and we would have 4 bridesmaids and 2 groomsmen if we did this. Is it mean to tell her that the MOH has to read them? Thanks Ladies!