So, after Mike and I were running around trying to figure out who was going to drive Amanda home from the reception, her mom came to him and said "you're having my mom (amanda's grandma) pick her up? does this mean I'm not invited?"
Seriously??? Now I get along with her and everything but what person in their right mind would WANT to go to their ex spouse's next wedding???? Mike told her pretty much hell no, she's not invited; she argued him that she's happy for us and she's over it with him. Great - I'm over my exes too but have no desire to attend their wedding. He told her if she wants to see Amanda walk down the aisle, he can't stop her from sitting in the back of the church, but she better stay away from his family.
Mike and I agreed there's no reason why any of our ex boyfriends/girlfriends/friends with benefits - basically anyone we slept with in the past - needs to be invited to our wedding. I'm friends with my old boyfriend's (of 8 years ago) wife; I guess I'd have to explain another reasoning for not inviting them since he never told her we dated. He had a one-night tryst with one of his sister's friends about 6 months before we met and she asked why so and so was invited but she wasn't; he told her she could come for drinks and that he didn't think I'd mind. Thing is, I like the girl.....but the fact that something did go down between them makes me uneasy about having her there. I'd rather avoid argument about it though and hope she just forgets.