Please let me know if I am being a brat. For this whole wedding I am really trying to be accommodating and make choices that are convenient for my friends and family. So, the place my mother wanted to have my shower at is now closed. I spent all morning researching for a new place, (meanwhile coworkers are telling me I should not be doing the leg work for this and it doesn't make sense I am planning my own shower) I decided I wanted to have a high tea shower and have a cute theme with little tea sandwiches and scones etc. Everyone can wear a fun hat and it would be different and not the usual same old brunch. On my way home I met with the coordinator at the Radnor Hotel and I liked the room, the cost is reasonable and the room opens up to the garden so we can doing the presents and dessert outside. Well I was just telling my mom and she totally shot my idea down and said its too out there and because it out of her realm of normality and the cost of the brunch menu was the same we would have a bunch. Do you guys think I should tell her I want the tea? She is paying for the shower, but its my shower right? For the same price, you do get more food with the brunch vs the tea sandwiches and scones, but who needs a huge selection of brunch stuff when tea sandwiches are yummy and original? What you guys think? Should I just suck it up and go with a couple friends to tea on my own time?