Do you have a say in what you FI does with his money now, I don't really say anything to FI. If he is spending a lot of money I might say something like "Don't forget you have a honeymoon to pay for" or something. I don't think right now I really have the right to say anything. We don't live together and we don't share bills. My friend always has a say in what her FI does and she thinks I should as well. I just don't think I have a place.