A girl I know on another message board (not a wedding-related board) got engaged around Christmas of last year (2008) and planned their wedding for April of 2010. Pretty standard stuff ... and being that it's almost 2010, their wedding and reception are all planned, all vendors booked, etc.
A few weeks ago she decided to quit her job because she was very unhappy. This meant that she lost her health insurance, and her fiance's job would only cover her on his health insurance if they were married. So ... they decided to get married quickly at a courthouse two weekends ago so she could get on his health insurance. They are still planning on having the "wedding" in April 2010 which is well, ok, they already planned and paid for everything.
However I don't know about this -- she isn't telling anyone that they are TECHNICALLY already married. Not even their parents. I think she told her maid of honor (and obviously, internet strangers, lol) and the pastor who is performing the ceremony (non-denominational and not at a church) but that was it. I don't know why but that strikes me as not right. Again not sure why it seems that way, but it seems deceptive. If I were a guest I would want to know. I get that they want to use what they already paid for in terms of their April wedding but invitations haven't been sent yet, if it were me I'd change the invitation to say something like "a reception" or "a celebration of our marriage" instead of a formal wedding invitation.
I've never heard of anyone doing this but I imagine with people needing health insurance coverage, etc. it must be somewhat common. Just my opinion, no clue why I feel this way but it bothers me a little. What do you think?